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SM - I do encourage him to

Thu Oct 08 2009 - 07:24 pm Commented in Understanding Men : An Update on the Ex (TinaP)

SM - I do encourage him to date. HE's the one allowing himself then stopping himself. I wasn't angry he was looking for casual sex online, I was upset at the fact he needed to lie at all. Not the subject matter. This still doesn't mean I'm still in love with him. Some people may be able to tolerate, even find it quite acceptable to have friends lie to them, but not me. Trust to me is a very fragile thing that takes a long time to build and a second to shatter. Furthermore, when I have... more

Actually I would because I DO

Wed Oct 07 2009 - 12:06 pm Commented in Understanding Men : An Update on the Ex (TinaP)

Actually I would because I DO get upset and angry when friends lie to me. Just because he is an ex does not mean I want him back. I'm hopefully still being respectful toward you, but you can't be right all of the time. I repeat, I cannot feel something for him on that level just because its fits someone else's theory.

As for what I want figuring out, I believe the others that have replied to me on this thread have already helped me with that, but thanks anyway. :)

SM, I love ya, but you must

Wed Oct 07 2009 - 08:55 am Commented in Understanding Men : An Update on the Ex (TinaP)

SM, I love ya, but you must understand, it really isn't as clear cut as you seem to think - I AM over him. I have told him several times I'm not coming back in that way. It's him that isn't getting the message. There is no way I could be as happy as I am, as comfortable as I am with A if I was not over my ex, and I base that on how I've been in the past with guys. How I actually feel inside. I try really hard to look at things as objectively as I can, I try to pretend I'm an outsider... more

Sweetie - thank you VERY much

Wed Oct 07 2009 - 08:51 am Commented in Understanding Men : An Update on the Ex (TinaP)

Sweetie - thank you VERY much for explaining. As you now know, I am disabled, and part of that means my memory is really bad and I get confused very easily. So thank you for explaining, and I mean that from the bottom of my heart.

You're quite right then in the regard that we were both misbehaving. He was by going behind my back, something I had told him not to as a friend, because even friendships are based on trust. I was by allowing it. But no more. We have discussed the... more

Thanks sweetie and SM - but

Mon Oct 05 2009 - 02:16 pm Commented in Understanding Men : An Update on the Ex (TinaP)

Thanks sweetie and SM - but I'm really confused now - I'm not being underhand here from what I can make out. I never told my ex when I stareted seeing A because I didn't know where it was going and quite frankly, it is none of the ex's business.

I'm not angry because he's looking for other women - I told him to - I'm upset withthe fact he still feels the need to hide things from me. So where along the line does this make me a bad person?

I don't want the ex back. I'm not... more

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"I have been widowed for 7 years and am definitely ready to get back into dating.

...I made my "Vision Board", my "Wish List" of Must-Haves, and posted it on my home office wall, right above my computer screen, where I see it and meditate on it each day.

There is no doubt in my mind and in my heart that "He" will come into my life soon."