This has happened to me frequently in online dating, and it's such a strange phenomenon. Especially when you can tell the guy is into you, but he's just not following up with action. I agree with the others, if nothing concrete happens in about a week, just let it go.
That's a really good list -- I agree with every point.
Hi Guinny, I've been reading your thread with interest and I think you've made great strides in a very short period of time, despite some disappointment! Congrats!
I can't help thinking Hot Vet is gay and doesn't recognize the effect his flirty nature is having on you. Just because your experienc...
Lolly, I would just write back, in regard to him giving you his number, "Thanks, and here's my number too." And give him yours. That puts it back in his court. I did this with a couple of guys recently and it worked -- they called. :)
I agree -- go ahead and contact first in the way Smiler suggested. I've had pretty good results with contacting first -- but then the guy has to take it from there! :)
NewLife, I think your "freakout" is totally understandable. And, just as emotions have been swirling for you, they probably are for him too. I know it's hard, but don't contact him! Try to hold off and distract yourself, remind yourself that it's early on and you don't know if this person is right f...
I think it's rude to cancel the day of for that reason. I can see canceling because of being ill and an emergency coming up or some legitimate conflict -- but "off to the beach" is not a legitimate conflict, IMO! I wouldn't expend any more energy on him, no matter how cute he is. ;)
Carola,
My take on the guy's email to you (and the same thing happened to me once) is that I BOTH appreciate the directness AND I find it a bit annoying! The directness is nice because it doesn't leave you wondering -- but after only one date, I can't see why it was necessary! Everyone understand...
Sorry it's not working out with the eharmony guy, Kat. Two dates is enough, I think, to tell if there's anything there worth pursuing. Better luck next time!
Good luck, Kat! Keep us posted! :)
Thanks everyone for all your info about eHarmony experiences. It's kind of scary that there's actually an "anti-eHarmony" group! Thanks for posting that link, K203.
