Thanks for your input, guys. I do want a relationship, too, but it is secondary. You see, once you are a mother, it is fairly all-consuming. If you are married, your husband will also come second. I was married - so I know, and we are divorced because he is a lout, not because my baby comes first. This is biology, folks. After the child is older, then the marriage becomes more of a focus again. I am not saying that the marriage should be completely neglected - it should be invested...  more