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Thanks SO much, everybody-- I

Thu Nov 19 2009 - 10:42 pm Commented in Dating : Is it ever OK to just share your feelings and ask direct questions?

Thanks SO much, everybody-- I knew y'all would be helpful! Special thanks to szstudio52-- I had no idea that relationship model thing existed, and it was VERY interesting.

Hi Melody-- I think that lots

Sun Nov 15 2009 - 10:40 pm Commented in Dating : Dating and panic attacks?

Hi Melody-- I think that lots of us have had those panic attacks occasionally! A book that helped me-- if you haven't tried it already-- is The Feeling Good Handbook, which I'm pretty sure is available at any bookstore or library. It's a self-help book based on Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, and involves writing out your feelings in a really specific way (the book will tell you how) so you can see how your thinking when you're panicky is not rational, and help re-direct you towards... more

I might be wrong, but I'm

Sun Nov 15 2009 - 10:26 pm Commented in Dating : Question on NC

I might be wrong, but I'm pretty sure NC is basically letting him initiate any contact. You, of course, can respond to his contact, but you don't ever make the first move. Essentially, it is ALWAYS his turn. If he doesn't contact you, then you move on, or at least make yourself busy til he does call, and don't hang around obsessing about it. It's very, very difficult, and I'm not very good at it. That is an over-simplified response, I'm sure-- other girls who have more practice may have... more

Thanks, Pandora! He did act

Sun Nov 15 2009 - 09:34 pm Commented in Understanding Men : I am an idiot: just me venting, mostly...

Thanks, Pandora! He did act as though I'd just handed him a list of names I'm considering for our kids-- I'm so glad you said that!
And yeah, I'm right there with you. I think the goal is 50,000 words, although I can't remember because I haven't been on the NaNoWriMo site in several days... probably because I want to imagine that my 7500 words is much closer to the goal than it actually is.

HA! Whatever else I'm afraid

Sun Nov 15 2009 - 08:24 pm Commented in Understanding Men : I am an idiot: just me venting, mostly...

HA! Whatever else I'm afraid to bring up with him, I will call him on that one-- no farting on my doorstep. But I'm afraid it wasn't pain--it was the deer-in-headlights look.

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