Thanks SO much, everybody-- I knew y'all would be helpful! Special thanks to szstudio52-- I had no idea that relationship model thing existed, and it was VERY interesting.
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Hi Melody-- I think that lots
Hi Melody-- I think that lots of us have had those panic attacks occasionally! A book that helped me-- if you haven't tried it already-- is The Feeling Good Handbook, which I'm pretty sure is available at any bookstore or library. It's a self-help book based on Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, and...
Sun Nov 15 2009 - 09:26 pmI might be wrong, but I'm
I might be wrong, but I'm pretty sure NC is basically letting him initiate any contact. You, of course, can respond to his contact, but you don't ever make the first move. Essentially, it is ALWAYS his turn. If he doesn't contact you, then you move on, or at least make yourself busy til he does ca...
Sun Nov 15 2009 - 08:34 pmThanks, Pandora! He did act
Thanks, Pandora! He did act as though I'd just handed him a list of names I'm considering for our kids-- I'm so glad you said that!
And yeah, I'm right there with you. I think the goal is 50,000 words, although I can't remember because I haven't been on the NaNoWriMo site in several days... prob...Sun Nov 15 2009 - 07:24 pmHA! Whatever else I'm afraid
HA! Whatever else I'm afraid to bring up with him, I will call him on that one-- no farting on my doorstep. But I'm afraid it wasn't pain--it was the deer-in-headlights look.
Sun Nov 15 2009 - 06:56 pmI wouldn't have thought it
I wouldn't have thought it was so bad, but you should have seen the look on his face! And like I said before, If I could do the voice he said he'd "miss me too" with, you'd know-- he was uncomfortable.
Sun Nov 15 2009 - 06:46 pmOh, we've been alone in my
Oh, we've been alone in my apartment several times-- his possibly being anti-PDA may be something to consider, because 99% of the kissing has been done in my apartment (though he initiates hand-holding in public). I know some of his relationship history, but not the "what went wrong" stories-- it's ...
Sun Nov 15 2009 - 11:32 amThanks, Y'all-- you have
Thanks, Y'all--
you have been very reassuring. I am determined not to call or email him. I agree-- I don't think what I said was that big a deal. I've got to calm down.Sun Nov 15 2009 - 09:40 amThanks so much Kat60-- that's
Thanks so much Kat60-- that's what I intend to do. And, see, that is the whole thing! I am PLENTY busy!! There was a time in my life when I would have pretended to be busy and be cool when whoever I was dating went out of town, but secretly would have obsessed over it while hiding in my apartment ...
Sun Nov 15 2009 - 09:24 amIs it ever OK to just share your feelings and ask direct questions?
I was married for 13 years to a man who said out loud every passing thought that came to his mind. EVERYTHING. I got divorced about 2 years ago, and now I'm dating a quiet, reserved person. I have to GUESS what he's thinking--or try to go by the clues in how he acts-- and I'm NOT good at this.
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