“Why do men talk badly about women who lie about their age or weight, then they lie about their height?”
1. The psychology behind it:
- Men lie because they mistakenly believe that having a certain physical characteristic is going to make the difference in how attractive they are .
- Guys do this for the same reasons women do: they base too much value on one characteristic instead of themselves as a package.
- Both sexes can be somewhat hypocritical – both want honesty whilst often failing to be honest themselves.
2. What to do about it:
A. Learn how to sell the benefits of what you have, whether it’s age, a certain body shape or size.
B. Show that you are indifferent to it – if it’s not a problem for you it won’t be a problem for them.
C. Show that you don’t fit the stereotype – i.e. some people may think with age people become more boring and cynical – defy expectations and be the opposite!
Quick Love Life Happiness Tip:
Don’t worry about whether or not someone is lying to you, just decide what standard of honesty you want to uphold for yourself. And don’t forget to own whatever features you have!
Don’t forget to leave a comment, and stay tuned for next week!
Your coach and friend,
Matthew x
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