Imagine if you were a beautiful 43 year old woman who is a star on one of the most popular shows on television. You would think that you would have men crawling all over you wouldnâ€™t you? You would think that in all the glamour and glitz of Hollywood you would have actors, agents and all other entertainers vying for the chance to get to go out with you.
But no matter how much money and fame you have you would still have the same problem that every other single woman has. Finding the right guy to share your life with. Because unfortunately in the celebrity world many women have men pining for them simply because of their celebrity status.
So what does a woman who is in the spotlight do to meet her magic man? Well, she does what 50 million other single women do, she goes online (incognito of course). This is exactly what happened to Carrie Ann Inaba, one of the judges on the super popular TV show, Dancing With The Stars.
Carrie recently admitted to USA Today that she met her fiancĂ©e online. After stating that she was frustrated with the superficial world of Hollywood and being tired of men who were more enamored with her celebrity status, she decided to take her love life into her own hands and try online dating.
And it worked. Carrie ultimately wound up meeting a guy who swept her off her feet. A regular guy who is able to love her for who she is, not what she has.
I know that if you are reading this youâ€™re saying one of two things:
1) She got lucky
2) Online datingÂ doesn’tÂ work.
Iâ€™d like to address each of your concerns. First, I truly donâ€™t believe Inalba got lucky. I think she made her own luck. She saw what wasnâ€™t working in her life and she decided to take some action. But what is most important is she used her head. She knew that because of her celebrity status she had to limit what she said and how she said it. She did not initially post her picture nor did she advertise that she was one of the judges on DWTS. She knew that the right guy would have to love her for who she was. She did not lie but she did not reveal the whole truth.
This was a very smart approach and it helped increase her chances of finding a guy that was right for her.
Carrie did not let her emotions and her loneliness cloud her judgment. The truth is that in the dating world, online and off, there are men with ulterior motives. Whether those motives are to just get a woman into bed, scam them for money or to go out with a woman just because she has fame and fortune.
It makes no difference what the agenda is. If you are aware that men like this exist you can do things which greatly increase your chances of avoiding them. And even if one flies under your radar you will be equipped to spot him quickly.
The second thing youâ€™re probably saying is online dating doesnâ€™t work. And I agree it doesnâ€™t work for everyone. Nothing does. There is no magic pill, quick fix or single bullet for any challenge in life. There are always multiple roads that lead to the same destination. Whether that destination is losing weight, making money or finding your soul mate.
However, I believe online dating is the BEST way to meet that special someone to share your life with.
Why do I feel that way? Because when you understand how to do it right, it can be much easier. Where else can you meet a ton of potential dates and screen them before you even leave your home?
There is certain knowledge and skill set one must have to date online.
Think of online dating like fishing. It merely provides the pool of fish, but if you donâ€™t know what kind of fish you are looking for, you donâ€™t know what kind of bait to use and you donâ€™t know how to fish properly you will make it much harder to catch the kind of fish you are looking for.
What helped Carrie to succeed in finding love online is that she knew what type of guy she was looking for. She then understood that she had to do things a certain way so that she wouldnâ€™t attract catfish when she was looking for Mahi Mahi.
Is it realistic to expect you will catch a fish every time you throw your rod in the water? No, of course not. Will you sometimes pull up a type of fish that you donâ€™t want? Of course. But if you are not having any luck or you keep pulling up losers, itâ€™s not â€śfishingâ€™s faultâ€ť. It simply means one of two things: 1) there is something you are doing which you shouldnâ€™t be doing or 2) Youâ€™re not doing something you should be doing.
In my opinion online dating can be the best source of finding good quality dates but if you donâ€™t understand the process and you donâ€™t know how to do it right, you will make it much harder on yourself to find â€śthe oneâ€ť.
So, the next time you say online dating doesnâ€™t work. Ask yourself this question: â€śIf a TV star can succeed at it, why canâ€™t you?â€ť