There are lots of reasons why a younger man dates an older woman. As it turned out, I married a younger man, although I didn’t set out with that intention. It just happened that most of the 30 men I dated during my 15 month journey to find love were younger.
As a dating coach over the last 10 years, I’ve talked with lots of single men and discovered these seven reasons why young men find an older woman attractive.
1) For Fun
Cyndi Lauper says “Girls just want to have fun”. So, go ahead and enjoy a younger man who is looking for fun too. Sometimes life brings you an opportunity just for the sake of a good time. Nothing wrong with that. It’s what the movie “How Stella Got Her Groove Back” was all about. A fling with a young man brought Stella back to the joys of her life.
2) For Status
Older women are more accomplished. Many have high-powered jobs and are very affluent, with the coin to enjoy the good things in life. For eons, older men have dated younger women and they still do. So, it stands to reason that today’s younger men are looking for the benefits that come from dating someone older and more established. There’s a certain status that comes with dating a person of power and presence.
And let’s face it, successful women desire what older men have known for years – dating younger helps keep you young and brings back the glow of youth. Sounds good to me! Stop objecting to older men who want “arm candy”. It’s finally your turn. If you want some arm candy, go find some.
3) For Avoiding the Ticking Bio Clock
Women in their 30’s are often worried about their biological clocks ticking and with good reason. However, an older woman is past thinking “family” or already has her family. This takes the pressure off a younger man. With an older woman, he can actually side step the family thing and simply focus on you babe. How nice is that?
4) For Oedipus
The Oedipus complex, a psychological term coined by Sigmund Freud, is actually based on Greek mythology and a tragic play by Socrates. The briefest explanation – when a young seeks the love of his mother – from another woman. Sort of like replaying his family drama.
Maybe he looks up to you. Maybe he appreciates your ability to nurture and the wisdom that only time can foster. It’s flattering when someone looks up to you. One of the best ways to learn life’s lessons is through a mentor and as you play the expert, you can savor the companionship of a delightful younger man.
5) For Lust
Maybe you’re hot and he wants you. Not a bad thing right? After all, nature has played a trick on humans with women reaching their sexual peak later in life and men reaching it earlier. This is a way to balance things out!
Not only that, but if a younger man finds you attractive, whether or not you go for it, his attention can boost your self esteem. Allow yourself to pump up your ego and feel like the attractive, alluring woman that you really are. Revel in it!
6) For Experience
Let’s say you are a younger man who hasn’t been with a lot of women. You’d like the short course from someone who could show you the way. Bingo! Some younger men date older women simply to gain experience. What a service you are doing for the younger women he’ll come in contact with later in life.
The teacher/student type of relationship is a classic. Just keep it out of the classroom and over 21 and you’ll be all set for a eye-opening and inspiring interaction. Plus, this type of relationship gives you a chance to be the chic in charge which can be a real kick. Why not show someone younger how to create romance and connection and benefit from the fun?
7) For Love
The last reason, but not the least, is LOVE. Some younger men can’t help who they fall for. He saw you, was struck by your beauty, charm and confidence, and fell head over heels. It happens. Really it does. Ask Katie Couric and Brooke Perlin, and countless others. It’s all the rage in Hollywood and for good reason.
The May-December romance which was frowned upon years ago, has now become totally acceptable. In addition, I say, let’s here it for those younger men who have the good sense to fall for an older woman like you! They have excellent taste.
Stop fretting about what a younger guy sees in you and enjoy his attention and affection. You deserve every flattering, delicious moment, so sit back and count your blessings.
Go here for more dating rules you can use right now.