Your best date advice!
Thu Aug 06 2009 - 01:44 pm
I have a lunch/dinner with a colleague/friend-with-major flirting in 2 weeks. It's going to be on his turf (in his home town) so he'll be more relaxed than me. It hasn't been defined as a date, but it could be read that way....and just wondering what your best date advice is? What's the best way not to be a jibbering wreck? Any pep talks you give yourself beforehand? Do you hug on meeting...do you write a mental list of stuff to talk about....what happens if chat dries up? Just interesting to hear other people's POV on this.
Tue Aug 18 2009 - 06:33 pm
#2
I am a confident woman, but before a date for some reason I always find myself hanging over my kitchen sink gagging. I drink a beer and once I am actually on the date I am fine. Just smile a lot and don't offer up your life story. Tell yourself he is on a job interview.
Tue Aug 18 2009 - 08:50 pm
#3
Remember this is the one time you can never do over, if you are seeking an exclusive long term relationship, you have to be prepared to say that up front. This is also the time to represent yourself as a lady, think of all the things a lady wouldn't do.
Respect yourself in front of him and he'll respect you in the end.
Most of all, have fun!!
I'll be around the corner with the van, net and rope, I do hope you can drive...winks!
What I do in situations like this where you're not quite sure if it's a quasi-date or what it is, is to treat it just like you're going to lunch with any other friend. Put no expectations on it. Not to say you can't flirt a bit, but don't appear overly interested. Ask him a lot of questions about himself, and you won't be a jibbering wreck, and you won't give away too much. You want him to be an open book, but you to be a bit more of a mystery. This way, if at the end of the lunch, if he just says, "Bye! See ya around!" you won't feel disappointed or embarrassed. If he's interested in you romantically, he WILL somehow find a way to ask you on a more official date, either right then and there, or with a phone call shortly afterwards.