You Deserve Better
Tue Nov 03 2009 - 09:53 pm
If a man ever tells you that "you deserve better", believe him 100% and GET OUT of the relationship immediately because he is right. It's the ONLY time that you can actually believe his words instead of his actions. He knows who he is and he is trying to justify himself in case you still foolishly fall for him anyway!
(Unrelated to my current relationship, this is my way of helping the community in thanksgiving for all the help you've given me.)
Tue Nov 03 2009 - 10:08 pm
#2
The one time I remember hearing this it was ABSOLUTELY true.
Tue Nov 03 2009 - 10:47 pm
#3
What is a man says "I'm nothing special. I'm just ordinary". Does the same apply?
Tue Nov 03 2009 - 10:49 pm
#4
Trace, to me that sounds like he is saying he is just your average Joe which can be a nice thing...
Tue Nov 03 2009 - 10:50 pm
#5
I recently told my guy friend that he is a stand up guy and he first made a joke about it and then said, yes I suppose I am.
Tue Nov 03 2009 - 10:54 pm
#6
He said it when I complimented him on something. (Can't recall what the compliment was now). I replied, "Hey, I just gave you a compliment, can you just accept that and not flick it off?" (He looked bashful at this point).
I tell the same thing to my teenage daughters...
Tue Nov 03 2009 - 11:47 pm
#7
Trace,
Unless he says the exact words, "you deserve better", there is no need to worry.
Being an average guy has nothing to do with this lesson. If he's average, that's great - just a show of humility, I'm sure. You're okay.
(Thanks for your advice in other threads - it's great!)
Wed Nov 04 2009 - 01:03 am
#8
What if he says "youre too good for me"? Is that the same as "you deserve better"?
Wed Nov 04 2009 - 02:02 am
#9
Hey thanks JustLooking! I apprecdiate that!
Wed Nov 04 2009 - 01:36 pm
#10
I would think that "you're too good for me" is when he is putting you on a pedestel. that could be a yellow flag, that he is infatuated with the IDEA of you but not seeing the real person. It could flag self esteem issues which may or may not be problematic.
You Deserve Better = i am a jerk and I will treat you bad because that is who I am
Wed Nov 04 2009 - 03:43 pm
#11
It's a polite way to tell a woman she is just a Temp.
Wed Nov 04 2009 - 03:57 pm
#12
What about "You'll be disappointed with me?" After a 17 year marriage to a F.O.G. who was never satisfied.
I told him at the time that was my decision to make, not his, and I'd let him know. It's never come up again. Although sometimes I tease him and tell him that I'm STILL not disappointed.
SZ
Wed Nov 04 2009 - 03:58 pm
#13
And no way to apply for a permanent position
Wed Nov 04 2009 - 10:28 pm
#14
shiloh2768,
The only way I can objectively answer that is to tell you of my experience. That's the same thing one man told me before he later said "you deserve better".
Wed Nov 04 2009 - 10:30 pm
#15
szstudio52,
My guess is that he doesn't want to disappoint you.
Wed Nov 04 2009 - 10:36 pm
#16
oh little darling,
I don't think it counts unless he initiated the claim.
Thu Nov 05 2009 - 10:11 am
#17
my ex from 4 years ago used this on me when he finished it at the time I didnt think I could do better but now Im like hell yeah ive done better!
Can you believe he calls and texts more now then what he did when we was together lol I dont reply though.
Yep, you are exactly right, its a cop out though, that's for sure.