Would he hug me for 3 hours watching a movie if he didn't care?
Fri Oct 16 2009 - 01:16 am
So I went to visit my "friend" today. We had, dinner, great sex, and then moved yo the couch and watched a 3 hr movie during which he had his arm around me, hugging/ cuddling the entire time. My question is... Does a guy do that if he is just your FWB? This has been going on for 4 mos, now he's talking about going on vacation together to a warm place during the holidays...
Help!!!
Mon Oct 19 2009 - 12:32 am
#2
Thank you.
Mon Nov 23 2009 - 08:39 pm
#3
Yes, a man can cuddle you for hours, tell you he likes you, have amazing sex with you, want to spend time with you, and STILL have NO desire for a relationship whatsoever. Seems crazy, but it's 100% true. Guys who want a FWB are looking to have their cake and eat it too, which is why they pull away when you start to count on them or put "pressure" on them.
I'm not saying that a guy (or girl) who's in a FWB is using the other, necessarily, although that is sometimes the case. He just wants the benefits of a relationship without the title, or responsibility (ie. if you're sick, he's not gonna take you to the doctor. If you have a family event, he's not gonna want to go.) He wants the fun and the freedom to pursue other interests, whatever they may be, yet still have the closeness of someone nearby. I know women who have FWB situations and they are fine with it, and then others who are NOT fine with it. Depends on the individual situation.
Mon Nov 30 2009 - 11:06 am
#4
dont tell me ure falling for the guy....I have been in FWB and believe me it dont work out...if a guy insist on that type of relationship then that is what he wants...he is on his own time table and not yours.....if u looking for a relatioship with him and think that u can change him ure setting up yourself for a broken heart and a lot of hurt and frustration...if ure looking for a real relationship take my STUPID advice cause i have been there....end the FWB, go into NC mode and from there heal yourself, date yourself and then look to be in the dating world
Hey, Gigi. I just answered another post of yours and came across this. Here's the thing about FWB guys...they still enjoy the same things as anyone else, closeness and phone calls and going out to dinner and introducing a woman to thier friends. They're not just looking for hardcore, wham bam and kick you out the door sexcapades.
But even though they like these things, they are not willing to pay for them with a commitment. And if the time comes when the person gives him or her an ultimatum, they will leave or disappear.
I had a thing like this that went on for months. We were very friendly, I met his friends, we spent a lot of time together and I believe he really DID like me. But in the end of it, he didn't want more than that and we both knew it. So it never would go anywhere, and I knew that.
As soon as you start to count on an FWB, they tend to pull away. So if it ever gets to that point for you (and I really hope it doesn't) you have to be prepared to move on. It's a crappy position to be in and it can waste years of your life, which is why FWBs are red flags.