Why do I get annoyed....??
Wed Aug 05 2009 - 12:13 pm
Ok, so I don't know if I am allowed to post this but here goes...
Why do I get so annoyed when I know that my bf has played with himself? Whether it's to porn, a mag or just a general thought? It makes me feel sick - as if he has cheated or, I dunno really... I have been like this throughout all the relationships I have had and really don't want to be annoyed about it anymore.
Please any advice or same scenarios would be great, thanks =D x
Wed Aug 05 2009 - 12:30 pm
Hello Sarah,
I know exactly how you feel because my boyfriend does the same thing... its annoying and it makes you feel as though your not good enough...well at least that's what I felt.
It made me feel insecure that he would watch other naked woman having sex and find it "attractive"...
Don't worry about it, it's only normal, on your part and his....most guys watch porn whether they're 14, 24, or 65 if they need to get rid of their "daily urges." (of course I don't know your boyfriend personally but from my own experiences with guys-that's what they do.)
But I began to think about it more and talked to him about it-of course don't talk it out in a negative matter, aka the attitude all of us woman get when something is really bothering us, because it could only make things worse with something stupid said.
So just think about it more as him "getting off" when he has an urge rather than him cheating on you with his hand :p (& think about it....what are his chances of ever meeting some chick in a porno...slim to none dear)
& if he's a faithful guy, as far as it goes IS porn...
Hope I help somewhat,
Good luck!
Wed Aug 05 2009 - 12:39 pm
Thanks for your reply G.Marie, I'm just gonna have to accept that all men do it and there's nothing I can do to change it because at the end of the day they aren't doing anything wrong or cheating, any ideas how I can keep thinking like this and not get so annoyed? x
Wed Aug 05 2009 - 06:03 pm
If this is not affecting your love life (he's still paying plenty of attention to you) I've heard from a guy that it is simply releasing s3xual tension. For example sometimes they do it in the middle of the night if they can't go back to sleep.
It is not "cheating" as long as it is not affecting your relationship. You can however tell him you are uncomfortable when he does it in your presence or tells you about it though. With all the guys I knew it was a private thing.
Thu Aug 06 2009 - 01:22 pm
My bf is ex- morman and has been for 11 years. Masterbating is a total sin in the morman church, which is really terrible because it is a relief to do it.The church is very sexually restricting. He does it all the time as a result of the brainwashing. He asked me if it bothered me and I said" No....you grew it....you can do whatever you want to with it". He said that sometimes he just wants to be alone and that's perfectly alright with me. I'll even help in my own special way....
Fri Aug 07 2009 - 03:11 am
"he grew it and can do anything he wants with it" LOL!!! That's a keeper!
Fri Aug 07 2009 - 12:03 pm
my goodness, how can you NOT whack off? I would do it even when I had a boyfriend because I enjoyed pleasuring myself. there is nothing wrong with wanting to pleasure yourself. it doesn't mean the sex you have isn't good. they are separate acts!
Wed Aug 12 2009 - 01:49 pm
i do it to help me fall asleep
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