Whoa. DWD is working!
Sat Oct 17 2009 - 02:39 am
Here is an excerpt from an email I just received, after the guy I've been dating apologized to me. If you want background history read "doubting dater" in new community. And "I am a mess today" in breakups. I do realize that sharing email information is a little risky. But I decided to keep what I share short, and simple. I.e. I am not sharing any of the really personal stuff.
"ive been trying to deal with the things that i hide behind and in that process im running away from everything else. thats not really a productive way to deal with things. then i watch you and see how positive you are through everything. you dont seem to let things get you down. i should learn from you."
Um, thanks for the compliment mr. But in all honesty, I have been venting a lot on my new supportive site for other dating troopers like me. So in reality, I'm not all that positive. But I am "dating without drama." Score!
Sat Oct 17 2009 - 11:42 am
Score 1 for you..
What is it they say, the first step is realizing there is a problem, woohoo.
Taking it away from you, what is he really trying to say? You have a man that has opened up, he let you into his inner being, giving you a little glimpse of what he is struggling with, what does one now do with that bit of information?
How would you proceed in answering that email, not necessarily responding to it, what would your thoughts be? Remember your response could make him close the door.
If he were your best girlfriend, how would you respond you respond to her?
Sat Oct 17 2009 - 01:46 pm
I already responded. I told him that what he is struggiling with is normal. And set down a new boundary of making plans with me far enough in advance so that I can fit him into my schedule if he chooses to be a part of it.
Mon Oct 19 2009 - 08:32 pm
Look at you, all DWD like a pro! Healthy boundaries like that are the best way to go!!
Sat Oct 24 2009 - 04:06 pm
trooper, that was quite a compliment he threw your way and probably needs encourement that he too can live a more positive lifestyle with a positive outlook...and I beg to differ with you about you not being positive. You are here and probably because you want to figure things out and be a better you...that is extremely positive. :)
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