I too had a long distance realtionship and we really hit it off and I flew to meet him and it just got better and we really fell for each other and then he suddenly said he couldn't do the long distance because it was too hard. He gave up just like that and I haven't heard from him in just about two weeks (see confused article). It is very hard, and I really miss our closeness and the relationshp and friendship we shared for nine months and I will never understand how he can give up so easily and just through it away but I can't make him change his mind and I haven't tried to either. If he cannot realize what a great person I am and that we are a great match then I guess he is not the one. It is very hard to admit but if he really wanted to be with me the distance should not stop him. It is do-able. So my advice would be to not chase him and stop being so clingy and needy, he will only run faster. Believe me I know it is hard, my heart aches every day, but you cannot make someone want you and only you, they have to decide that for themselves and if they don't well you deserve better than that anyway. If a man really wants to be a part of your life, especially for the long term, he will be, if not you are better off to know now and find someone else who is worthy of you. If he cannot realize how great you are then it is his loss and someone else will and will not let you go. So pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and keep moving forward, keep your dignity and don't allow him to make you feel like a mess, you have to love yourself first. Try stopping with all your contact and see if he contacts you, if you mean as much as he has ever said, he will start to wonder why you stopped contacting him and if he doesn't contact you, then move on. That is what I am doing and it is the hardest thing I have had to do and every time I get the urge to call him, I call my friend instead or go for a walk, keep yourself busy. He knows how to get ahold of you and if he choses not to, he's not worth your turmoil. Keep on keeping on, and have faith, things will get better!

Blessings, Apple

Dear Apple, thank you for your lovely post. YES i KNOW its what i have to do now and your right, it is the hardest thing..A vow of silence is now taken, thank you for your reply, and wise words, Blessings back to you, x ps.Hope your pain gets better soon and things work out.

Hi,
I was wondering how things were going with you and how things worked out. Are you together with this guy or have you moved on? Hope you are doing well!
Interested,
Apple

Hi There Apple,how are you? Wellllll LOL i stuck to my guns and persued the vow of silence.It WORKED ( smiling here) 3days into me not communicating he texed me, i ignored that too! then the next day, and the next till a week had passed .I apologised of my reply being delayed but said Ide been so busy socialising blah blah blah ( lol)Ive stopped the clingy insecure rubbish and only respond to his communications as and when.Gotta say it ALMOST killed me...But now things have changed around and i do feel so much better, like my old self.I may go see him the end of the month, I MAY not! Il see. Many thanks for your interest, Hope things are good for you, Blessings x

PS.>> Pinkki (aka) blue eyed fool... x

way to go.. only problem is..like me.. we are without partner still having to engage in all these games. I had a shocker of a weekend..which bought me here.
I'm so tired of the games. I just want someone to love me for me, and the same for you.
blessings
xx

What i am learning is DO NOT go to them, DO NOT spend your hard earned cash chasing them up. That makes it easy for them to lap it up, but they never seem to return your love or generousity in time and effort, thought or care. They are using all of us who become the chaser, the used, the disposable. As long as we chase and run to them but it's only ever at their convenience, beck or call...have you ever noticed that? They'll lap up the free ride,sex, etc...they will NEVER commit and usually keep you in the closet. They don't love or care for us in the true sense of the word or they'd be the ones doing the work wouldn't they?

A man will always go for the kill so to speak or chase if there's something he truly wants or desires. He'll go out of his way to attain his goal and protect his prize.

Ladies don't facilitate the breeding of this new phenomena that is sweeping the world. Lazy men who can take or leave you at any tick of the clock, their back pocket screw....until their ONE arrives, or they find a replacement or whatever.....takes their fancy.

Pinkki, please don't go see him....don't hurt yourself again. Sure you'll feel great while you're with him and he'll make you feel you were being silly over nothing, but after a couple of days, when you're back home and you can't function for days because you can't stop thinking about him...and you wonder why he doesn't call text, email etc....it will be the same old same old rollercoaster all over again. Be strong. Don't go to him. Let him go. Be kind to yourself. Just out of curiousity i'd be wondering when/if he'd ever bother to come see you? Don't waste too much thought on that. Try meeting someone in your local postcode. Where you have the chance to maybe have a valid, authentic, real relationship. I don't mean to be a wet blanket but am currently "getting back to me" after being in a similar situation as you for the past five months. No More, it stops now. Stay Strong, move on, cut your losses and shut that door. Allow room for something new to enter your life. Something good, you deserve someone good, don't settle for less. Love to you. God Bless. XX