WHEN IS THE RIGHT TIME TO LET A MAN KNOW THAT YOU HAVE DEEP FEELINGS FOR HIM?
Fri Jan 15 2010 - 09:43 am
I met this really nice guy off of a dating site, we have been dating now for 3 weeks just last night after meeting for dinner and have a nice time he tells me that he has fallen for me and he starts sharing with me about the future that he wants to have with me & wants to share his last name with me & goes on to suggest that we both come off the dating site because we both have no desire to date other people....so we have deleted our profiles from the site...He leaves for a trip to Atlanta this morning and will return on Sunday & he tells me that he can't wait until we meet again when he returns...I thanked him for a wonderful dinner last night and he texted me saying "you are welcome, The best is yet to come".....
Now I would like other womens opinions on my question "WHEN IS THE APPROPRIATE TIME FOR ME TO ACTUALLY SHARE MY TRUE FEELINGS THAT I DO HAVE FOR THIS GUY...WHEN DO I TRULY OPEN UP TO HIM MY FEELINGS AND BE SAFE IN DOING SO WITHOUT HIM THINKING THAT OH YES I HAVE HER & THEN MAYBE START MAYBE PLAY GAMES.............PLEASE HELP
Fri Jan 15 2010 - 10:49 am
Hi Carolina
Sounds like things are going well so far, though I would be a little cautious about someone who's already talking about 'the future' after only three weeks of dating. Sounds like you've got your head screwed on and aren't going to let yourself get carried away too soon.
For the time being, react positively to things he says, but hold a little of yourself back; don't give too much too soon. For example, when he mentions something about 'the future' or whatever just smile, hold his hand and say something nice but non-committal like 'that's nice to hear'.
Of course, there are no guarantess of a relationship working or of you not getting hurt, but you can take steps to ensure 'damage limitation' if it does all go pear-shapped. At this early stage try and avoid spending too much time together, keep busy and active with the rest of your life and ease into the relationship if/as it develops.
Fri Jan 15 2010 - 11:02 am
3 weeks is a very short time to start talking about sharing last names. I'd wait for a while, maybe like quite a few more dates before I tell him I have deep feelings for him.
I have been seeing my guy for over 5 months and neither of us still will come out and say we have really deep feelings for each other, although it is obvious we do and we are exclusive. It is just one of those things that you want to take your time with because when you do say it, you want to really mean it and have the other person reciprocate those feelings truly and not just through the "infatuation fog".
At 3 weeks, to me it's still the infatuation fog.
Fri Jan 15 2010 - 11:08 am
"At 3 weeks, to me it's still the infatuation fog."
Lol! @ 'infatuation fog'. That's a really good way of putting it Misty.
Fri Jan 15 2010 - 05:54 pm
Thank you so much for your comments, I was feeling the same as what you have mentioned. I feel that he's trying to move things along a little too fast for me & he seems to be so sincere about it.
Fri Jan 15 2010 - 11:28 pm
Hi Carolina...3 wks is soon...but the new guy I met on a dating site was very upfront about what he wanted and even though he didn't say he wanted me to have his last name, he did make mention of "a future"!! Hope this isn't the same guy on the same dating site! Does he live in Atlanta? Do you mind me asking where are you from? Just checking! ;)
Fri Jan 15 2010 - 11:37 pm
Thanks Smiler.
My guy and I said some pretty crazy stuff at 2-3 weeks too...it IS what it is...FOG!!
Of course as a few more weeks went on, things settled down to more realistic levels and I pretty much ignored what we both said during the fog...it truly wasn't realistic.
We also did some stuff (exchanged THOSE types of pics) during that time that many people would think was crazy fog behaviour, but strangely enough, that hasn't disappeared...hehehe...
Fri Jan 15 2010 - 11:38 pm
Carolina, take what he says right now with a grain of salt...I'm sure he does sincerely believe it right at this moment but, as time goes on, he will settle down to a more realistic view of your dating...
Sat Jan 16 2010 - 12:07 am
MY COMMENT TO ITSPOSSIBLE, THIS GUY I'M SPEAKING OF DOESN'T LIVE IN ATLANTA, DO YOU MIND ME ASKING YOU WHAT IS THE GUYS NAME THAT YOU'RE SPEAKING OF.....HE FLEW TO ATLANTA TODAY & WILL RETURN ON SUNDAY
Sat Jan 16 2010 - 12:08 am
well his initials are HK...my guy doesn't "live" in atlanta either but he has a condo there.
Sat Jan 16 2010 - 12:09 am
THIS GUY DOESN'T LIVE IN ATLANTA, DO YOU MIND IF I ASK YOU WHAT THE GUY NAME IS THAT YOU'RE SPEAKING OF BECAUSE THIS GUY TRAVELS A LOT & HE FLEW TO ATLANTA TODAY & WILL RETURN ON SUNDAY
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