Hi Mirror!

O O O this seems so complicated! And totally not right :(
If I were in your shoes, I'd think he's taking advantage of me...

You are right, if you have money problems, you shouldn't ask the person you just started dating! I think you should be honest about it, and try to compromise!

And it also seems he wasn't very correct with that quote-situation...

I would give yourself some time, and don't contact him for a while, just to get your head cleared up!

Good luck!

Whoa!!! You say you've never even met in person yet and he's already proposed marriage??? I don't mean to be a wet blanket here, but this instantly sent up a BIG red flag for me, before I'd even read any further.

Texting, chatting and phone conversations might be a good way to feel each other out, but let's face it, people can pose as anyone they want and spin some very pretty stories on-line that have little or no truth to them whatsoever. Meeting in person and getting to know each other in person is something else again. I think any woman would be wise to insist on meeting a guy in person, taking her time thereafter sizing him up, and proceeding with caution before making ANY commitments to him at all, nevermind marriage! Also, a guy who proposed marriage to me before he'd even met me would send off all kinds of alarm bells in my head anyway. Maybe he will turn out to be worthy of your trust, friendship and love, but right now I'd say he's still a total stranger with whom you've exchanged some long-distance chats.

And then he started asking you for money??? Again, sorry but he sounds like a complete scammer to me, hoping to take advantage of your lonely heart. Besides, do you really want to end up with some guy who is, at best, so classless as to ask you to help out financially before you've even met and who obviously doesn't have his financial act together? If his money's just tied up temporarily, then surely your meeting can wait until he can, up front, cover his own travelling expenses.

I would be extremely careful with this man, Mirror, if I continued communicating with him at all. What is your gut telling you?

Mirror,

I think you are doing just fine. You noticed a red flag, performed research on the flight fee and called him on it by asking him to cancel and dodged his proposal, good going.

If you are still willing to meet him, a compromise seems fair, perhaps both meet half way, own hotel rooms, OWN expenses, this way other is not put upon.

Better yet, why not just give him DAS boot and find someone more local.

Good luck!

Hi everyone,

I am so happy to get your instant feedback. That makes me feel that I am not alone in this dating world. I really appreciate your support.
The guy I was dating online lives in UK. We do seems sharing a lots in common. We feels so good about each other. and it comes so quickly and I just can't believe it is true. Well, my past experience tells me the best to know a person is wathcing how he/she deals with money. The flight ticket booking has drawn my cautious about him. Do you know anyway to verify the ticket was actually booked by him. He sent me a contact where he booked his ticket via BA. I really like to dig it deeper and I dont want to miss a gentle man either.

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Stop,

This man asked you for money before he even met you. You have only talk to him on the via e-mail and he is already talking marriage. Please, these are serious red flags that can change your life. There are men out there who pray on lonely women, men who will tell you everything you want to hear, for their financial goal. Once they get into your life they will get into your pocket. And because he lives out of the country, it will much harder to prosecute.

Have you ever read a story about a women who give a man a large amount of money, just to have him disappear on her once he got his hands on it. Looking at the story we say she was just stupid for doing that, all the sign were there, but she refuse to see them.

I would not have any contact with this man at all.

Good Luck

I am so sorry but I agree with all the other posts on this subject. It is BIG RED FLAG time here honey. Dont go there. Honestly, your gut instincts are telling you something isnt right. Follow that instinct and DO NOT SEND money to him. If he is for real then he will sort out his own money issues and not ask you when he hardly knows you.

Please please please let us hear a post back from you saying that you have not fallen for this scam artist (or if it wasnt a scam then I truly hope it had a happy ending and I apologise for being cynical).

RUN! and run fast! I had an experience on a on-line site where the guy asked for money and I was gone. Then a while later a woman had noticed I had the same guy as a friend on my profile and she sent me a message warning me to stay clear of him because he had gotten money out of her and then never followed up on anything he said he was going to do and she was out that money. I told her that I had already stopped contact with him but thanked her for the warning. Any guy who is already asking for money and has never met you is bad news. If he needs money, he can go to the bank and get a loan.
Guard your heart, guys can be charming, believe me I know!!!

Blessings, Apple

mirror, I disagree! This is not complicated at all. The man is a fraud! Period. They're all over the websites, ya know "spam". C'mon, get a hold of yourself and your pocketbook before he does. Time to wake up....you've been dreaming. Please keep us posted. I hope he gets what he deserves!