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What should I ask a guy on our first date?

Wed Sep 16 2009 - 12:59 pm

I have a date with a new guy tonight and was wondering if I should ask him casually, what's his story, i.e. is he happily single, a confirmed batchelor or what. I just want to see what he says. What do you think? When he asks me I will say happily single but open to meeting someone special....

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Mon Sep 21 2009 - 10:34 am

Hi jredmon

Why not just ask him something general like 'So, tell me about yourself?' - and he might open up and volunteer the information. This makes you sound like you're really interested in him and what he's got to say. Of course it all depends on how well you 'click', but there is always a danger that if you ask direct questions about relationships too soon you may come across as pushy or nosey.

Alternatively, wait until he asks you then ask the question back. And if/when he does ask you be honest; there's nothing wrong with saying you're looking for a long-term relationship if that's what you're after. A good answer is usually 'Well I'm happily single at the moment but open to the idea of a relationship with the right person.' (emphasis being on 'with the right person').

 
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Wed Sep 23 2009 - 05:36 am

Hi Jredmon,

First dates can be so nerve wrecking, we want to play it cool, yet we want to know, if you are such a "great" catch, why are you still on the market, c'mon fess up? Unfortunately, we can't go around saying it like that, probably never hear from him again.

As he is telling you about himself (great advice Smlier101) keep eye contact, be relaxed, open to possibilites, yet cool in your approach, sometimes men can be like timid rabbits, become skittish and ready to run if they feel the situation is a bit too heavy, lol.

Lite and breezy...

Very important piece of advice, keep your hands and other body parts to yourself, if he is not your man, you are not in an exclusive relationship with him, no touchy, no feely.

Enjoy!!

 
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Tue Oct 13 2009 - 12:35 am

Always be your self. If you are trying to impress him that could be a turn off. Being confident and real will hopefully impress him enough.

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