What to Say to Him
Mon Sep 14 2009 - 09:06 am
Hi,
When you think you've found "The One" and he wants you as his GF but YOU want more, there might come a point where you'll have "The Talk". Looking around I came across a sample template.
So here's one sample of the "No Girlfriend" speech:
"It feels so good to be with you. And I'm not
looking to be a girlfriend, I'm looking to be a
wife/partner. And so it doesn't feel good to close down
all my options until a man shows up who actually
wants to be married to me. I don't want to put
pressure on our relationship with any expectations
or anything. I just want to have a good time with
you and let you take whatever time you need to
decide what you want to do with me. What do you
think?"
Does anyone have any others?
Auds xoxox
Sun Sep 20 2009 - 02:47 am
Thats interesting Audrey.
I actually thought that girlfriend was a step in the right direction! I hate to disagree with you Auds because you are so nice and I love what you have to say but that sounds a little odd to me. However, there may be more to it than I'm seeing.
I just asked my boyfriend if he'd let me go on a date - 'NO WAY!' ....don't think I'll ask that again.
Though if this is a way to express to a guy you are dating that you are looking for a serious relationship then yeah, it does sound like a really good way to express yourself. In that instance it would be simply checking that the guy really knows what he wants????
xox
Sat Sep 26 2009 - 04:42 pm
Gretel, maybe I was wrong by omission of the word STILL:
When you think you've found "The One" and he wants you as his GF but YOU want more
-should be-
When you think you've found "The One" and he wants you STILL as his GF but YOU want more
Probably a typo...!!!
Auds
xoxox
Sun Sep 27 2009 - 03:59 am
Oh i get it!!! like when a relationship appears to have stalled?
Sun Sep 27 2009 - 10:28 pm
Interesting Audrey.
Mon Sep 28 2009 - 07:40 pm
Yep! STALLED... human error! I think it was a typo...
Auds
Tue Sep 29 2009 - 06:49 am
Hi ladies,
Any woman who tells a man this, "let you take whatever time you need to decide what you want to do with me."
Is not a wise woman, no woman should ever tell a man to take whatever amount of time he needs to decide what to do with her. She gets to sit on the side line of hope waiting for him to make a decision, no way Jose!
How about:
"I do understand you're scared and not sure if you are making the right decision for you life. Life can be a big scary place, filled with so much uncertainties and within that uncertainty I have found stable ground with. I have found a man that makes me smile and takes care of me, deep down inside I know am loved by you. So if you are unsure about your feelings for me or you do not want something more from this relationship, of course I understand. And hope you understand when I say, I love you, but I have to move on and find a man who is willing to make a full commitment to me, a man like who seeks marriage."
Something along those lines that sends a clear message, I love you but not going to wait for you to make a decision.
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