Week Two....

Thanks for the encouragement PG :)

Here's the latest updates on the situation:

He called twice Tue before noon.... Once to ask me where his checkbook was..... um, It's not a joint checking, so I was not really sure why he would think I would know the answer to that question ! :) ha ha.

So my Dad came into town later Tue night and we went to see Jackson Browne in concert. We found out at the show that he is also going to be in Clearwater on Fri, so my Dad says "hey, do you think your BF would want to go to that one" and I said "yeah", that he probably would.

So when we get back out to the car after the show, my Dad says "why don't you call him".... Well, I texted him 1. to make sure he was awake and 2. because if he DIDN'T want to go on Fri I wouldn't have him on the phone and not be able to make some excuse.

So immediately after I text him "hey... you up?", my BF calls me back. So I tell him about the show and say "my Dad wants to take us to Jackson Browne in Clearwater on Fri, are you in?" and he says "uh, I don't know babe, Clearwater wasn't really on my radar for Friday".

So I say, "uh ok" cause I really wasn't expecting him to say anything other than YES and he says "why do you sound like I just kicked your dog?" and I said "I don't", kind of laughed it off, and then said "well I guess I'll talk to you tomorrow" and he says "sure I'll talk to you tomorrow" all sarcastic like.

So on my way home once I got in my own car, I called him again to explain what had happened and he didn't answer.... didn't send me straight to voice mail or anything but he didn't pick up. Well, half an hour went by and still no call back from him so I texted "hey, did not mean to put you on the spot, that's why I texted instead of calling... Dad was excited and wanted to see if you wanted to go on Fri. I just said 'talk to you tomorrow' cause you were less than enthusiastic and I kind of didn't expect that. Sorry if I irritated you. No harm meant."

I got no response.

I went ahead and broke the no contact rule and called him around lunchtime.... He said he felt like me putting him on the spot like that was really ****ty (which it was, even though that was sooo not my intention) and I said "I know, that's why I texted you.... I should have sent you to VM and then just texted you the situation".

So the call actually went well and we chatted for a few more minutes. I ended the call by saying "OK sweetie, I'll let you get back to your day" and he said "Thanks.... have a good day babe".

However..... it's Wednesday and he has made no mention of getting together. He knows I am going to be over there on Fri anyway and that only leaves tonight or tomorrow to see each other during the week.

I did mention on Mon that I would like to get together during the week and he seemed amenable to it.... so what gives?

I don't want to be a broken record but I don't just want to be a weekend girlfriend either.

Any ideas on how to get him to want to see me during the week?

All right, now I am really po'ed.

Sent him an email this afternoon:

"Just read an article on ****.com that says studies show men sleep better with a woman in their bed. Wanna get a good nights sleep tonight?"

He responded:

"it's a video game night, it's up to you"

WTF!!!!!!!!!!

What part of "let's try and get together one night this week" did he not freaking get?!?!

I am so furious right now it is not even funny.

I know he's busy, I know he's stressed and I know the video games are an outlet for that, but at what point does our relationship become a priority?

I don't want to cut out time on the weekends because maybe he does have legitimate reasons for not getting together during the week, but the lack of him calling to actually have a conversation and the lack of invites during the week is starting to make me feel really crappy.

PG----

Hey girl ! I know I can always count on you :)

I DIDN'T RESPOND after he said "it's up to you".

Not to mention, I sent him that email around noon.... even if he had originally planned to play the video game, he could have been like "oh crap, that's right... she wanted to get together this week and I totally screwed up..." and then said "yeah, tonight would be cool" or something.

I just don't know if this is him being REALLY selfish or me not respecting his boundaries (per the "Just Need to Gripe to Someone" post).

I'm really hurt and confused and not quite sure how to handle this. I mean, everyone has weeks where they just want to do their own thing, but come on ! I point blank said "let's try and get together this week" !

How much more of a brick do I need to hit him over the damn head with?!?

I'm not saying he's doing it to intentionally be hurtful, but it still is hurtful !

I would be more of a bitch about it , but Thanksgiving is coming up and I don't want to cause drama in light of that.

This is just so frustrating. :/