we went out. but things were werid. how do u get over first date jitters?
Sat Oct 31 2009 - 02:55 pm
Hey.. I went on my first date last night but i was so nervous the whole time and i think i let it get the best of me. It was awesome and we hung out but like i wish we would of tlaked more. How do i get more confident. Im so shy around guys. he said he had a good time and everything but yea , i dont see y. Hes such a cutie and im crazyy about him and falling fo rhim so hard now. I hope i can get to the point where i can talk to guys about stuff without being afriad im goin to say something stupid.
How do I get confident enough to spend more alone time with him then just with him and his friends? Helo!
Also, what do i do about my ex that was there. He wouldn't leave us alone and then told me that he was jealous and likes me i dont like him anymore and he made me really mad . But i dont wanna be a bitch about it how do i let him down . without hurting him .
This guy that im goin out with is his best friend.
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Sun Nov 01 2009 - 01:11 am
It's not so much what happens on a date but what happens afterward that counts. If he asks you out again you can be sure he either didn't notice or didn't care it was a bit wierd. Or that he likes you enough to look past that.
I would suggest you don't share any of your angst with this man (off load to your girlfriends instead). Just shrug it off, and look forward.
Try to meet in a place where you won't be around your ex next time.
Sun Nov 01 2009 - 06:58 pm
Skittles...the only way to do it, is to do it, I'm afraid. Each time you see him, you'll get a little braver and eventually, you'll start being much more comfortable and getting to know the real person. If you're shy, it could take a while though...so be patient with yourself and take it easy. Time's the only real way to get past this... :-)
Sun Nov 01 2009 - 07:27 pm
I agree with the above posters. Also, if you are worried about looking stupid - let yourself be ok with that and be ready to laugh at yourself if you say something that makes you cringe. Guys love a girl who doesn't take herself too seriously. Also, don't think that the magic happens only during the date. Once you say good-bye and you are no longer with him he will be thinking about you - that is usually when a guy figures out if he likes you or not.
Keep it light, relax and let him lead.
Mon Nov 02 2009 - 07:40 pm
Men don't seem to analyse situations in their head as much as we do. (Sorry guys, I mean that in the nicest posisble way!) That is, we women can fuss and re-live every little moment, and sometimes all this does is get us all tied up in knots.
It's perfectly possible that your man might not have noticed half the stuff you did...try not to let over analysis rule...
Mon Nov 02 2009 - 08:29 pm
Thanks. How is it that i am not shy at all near my friends but around guys im so shy..
i dont get it, its like i get hit by a strike of lighting or somethin
Mon Nov 02 2009 - 08:53 pm
Because we like them so much. That hooks us in emotionally. The key I think is to have a strong enough anchor within ourselves so we can still be feminine, seductive and show our feelings, but at the same time, have boundaries firmly in place...
Do you also have males as friends? This does help I know...
Mon Nov 02 2009 - 10:11 pm
,. i have never been lucky enough to have guys as friends:(. i have had a few but never been that close
Mon Nov 02 2009 - 10:56 pm
To be perfectly frank with you, up until a few years ago, I was a bit in awe of the male species! I didn't understand them at all and consequently, whenever I had any contact with a man, or with groups of men, (and I'm almost embarassed to admit this) but I was shy and rather awkward around a man! Only when I started to become friends with men, did I start relaxing a lot more in myself. And - wonder of wonders, I found out they can sometimes have exactly the same sort of insecurities (about women) as we do about them!
If you can build some platonic friendships with men, this will help you I think to stay present in your body (and relaxed) when you're in a potential dating situation.
It's nothing to do with luck. If you choose to, you can go about building friendships with men now.
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