texting\contact question
Wed Feb 17 2010 - 10:13 pm
Ok, just started dating a new gent. He's growing on me slowly. He has initiated all contact for the past couple months. Calling, texting & the asking out.
My question is that twice I've sent texts to just comment on something we talked about. For example tonight I sent him the #2 text (the #1 was a couple weeks ago). I knew today he had a busy agenda today(speaches, a conference, etc), so I sent him a text saying "I know u had a busy agenda today. Hope all went well:). I'm sure u did great."
Is that ok? Honestly, I rarely ever make contact, so anything with me initiating feels out of the norm for me. I guess I just thought this guy needs some encouragement. Especially since it took me a month to give him my number and his comment was "a milestone. lol".
Is it ok, every once in awhile to send a smoke signal to a guy (during the initial stages)? Your thoughts are appreciated:)
Wed Feb 17 2010 - 10:16 pm
Sure, sending two texts in two months is certainly fine!
Kat
Wed Feb 17 2010 - 10:26 pm
Sassy I think its fine also...but make sure you don't keep increasing it as time goes on and then start doing more than he is doing! Just keep allowing him to initiate the contact and pursuing you...just send him a hello every now and then...but when he contacts you make sure you are sweet and very appreciative to hear his voice!!
Wed Feb 17 2010 - 10:26 pm
sounds so sweet, innocent and exciting! I am smiling for you!
Wed Feb 17 2010 - 10:28 pm
Ok, thanks Ladies. There are times when he's called & I haven't been around, nor have I called him back. I guess I'm just feeling a little bad...I mean how much of a beating can they take? lol
Wed Feb 17 2010 - 10:29 pm
not much...so again..send a smoke signal every now and then..but be sweet as pie when he calls...that way, he knows that you are not playing games and that you are excited to hear from him!
but now sassy...if he calls...try to at least text him back and say hey just saw you called, if you want to still chat I am available now....don't just leave him hanging all of the time!
Wed Feb 17 2010 - 10:34 pm
He really does have a nice voice btw. When I couldn't take his call (s), i did text him & tell him it was nice to hear his voice...even if on my voicemail.
Last night he called me from Vegas (for the second time)!
Ok, I can proceed with smoke signals:).
Wed Feb 17 2010 - 10:42 pm
yes and enjoy him pursuing you! oh how I wish I had that again! stop worrying about things...just enjoy and do what feels right to you!
oh..how long have you been dating this guy? are you all exclusive or just casually dating?
Wed Feb 17 2010 - 10:46 pm
Be careful to not play too may games. Some ladies take the no calling to the extreme in my opinion. If a guy is calling me and leaving a message and I am intersted - I call him back. That is just courteous. If you do nothing then you will actually make yourself look to insecure by being afraid to put yourself out there. The thing is that you want him pursuing you so he should do most of the initating and asking you out, but don't expect him to keep pursuing if you aren't even returning his calls.
Wed Feb 17 2010 - 10:48 pm
A little over a couple months, so not long. I wouldn't even give him my phone number after the first date! lol. Poor guy
He mentions the future & all these things he would like to do together. Even trying to plan future weekends, but I'm laying low. Encouraging, but at the same time going slow. Right now I assume he's seeing others (although he's hinted that he's not, we haven't had an official talk), since I know I am.
I'm starting to get use to him being around, so I'm thinking another month & I'll probably take myself off the market. Of course...that's if all continues to run smoothly...:)
Wed Feb 17 2010 - 10:51 pm
I couldn't call him back, since it was late my time. He was in Vegas. I did send him a text after his phone calls. We do have a time difference working against us right now.
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