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Self Esteem Test

Hello all,

I took this quick self esteem test. maybe it'll be useful for some here.

here it is
http://discoveryhealth.queendom.com/self_esteem_abridged_access.html

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so......Funny,
Spill the beans!
I bet you did great!
I did surprisingly well, actually!
Thanks for sharing!

 
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I'm actually a bit sick today but I scored 60% and I'm wondering if that's because I am sick. Usually I get more negative and depressed when sick but that's normal

 
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I scored 95%! Although I will say this test is a bit too easy to work out isn't it?

 

Short test...I got a 95. :) A few years back it would have been much lower.

 
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Thanks, funnyone, that was fun: I scored 100%. Well, it is not a very sensitive and/or specific test test I am afraid. I do have a rather healthy self-esteem, but I don't think I have reached the ceiling ;). Still have my moments like everyone else

If you are interested in more scientific tests and see how you compare with other people in your age group, professional group, gender, location etc on all sorts of aspects of happiness and emotional health etc, try:

http://www.authentichappiness.sas.upenn.edu/default.aspx

Funnyone, I hope you will be better soon.

 
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Well mine came out to be 53%...and I thought it would be 10%!!! I have very low self esteem, that I am working on but its hard to change your way of thinking from negative to positive after many years of feeding yourself doubt!

 
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itspossible, you are right on the track of raising your self-esteem! After I broke up with my last boyfriend, my self-esteem score would have probably come out -10 :). With a lot of work, reflection, reading good books and counselling, I am back where I was before we met. It is scary how a bad relationship can dramatically lower your self-esteem. I think this is one of the main reasons to avoid unhealthy relationships, they can be downright dangerous.

 
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oh yes a bad rel can lower your self esteem! its heart wrenching the way some of us women allow a man to tear us down!

 
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I don't know I think there is a reason why some women stay in these bad relationships. I don't think Wise, that it's fair to blame the relationship. A part of someone who gets into these situations probably doesn't want to be in a happy loving relationship and maybe the self esteem they thought they had was based on an image of a false self.

frankly if you had healthy self esteem, I think you just wouldn't tolerate being around someone who isn't supportive.

 
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You are absolutely right, funnyone, I got to this relationship right after I had decided to break up with my very long-term partner and I was feeling incredibly guilty for doing it. For the first time in my life I did not like myself. Like Paige says when you are feeling down you attract toxic people into your life. If I had been my normal self I would have walked after the first episode of verbal abuse, but because I was in such a bad place, I put up with it because on some level I believed the things he said about me. I believed I was a bad person, so him telling me how difficult and horrible and selfish and in general an impossible bitch I was went with what I believed about myself at that stage of my life. He was just reinforcing what I believed about myself anyway back then.

However, I take a lot of responsibility for what happened. I broke up with him and worked really hard to start liking myself again.