ROBIN?? AUDREY?? WISE WOMEN?? Mixed Signals - I'M CONFUSED
Hello to all the beautiful and fabelous women out there!
I really need your help - I'm falling very hard and very fast in love with someone.
Something that never happens (I'm a very strong women and don't ever let a man control my emotions) and I feel desperate. I can't get him out of my head! Now I feel so weak for feeling this way about him. It's like he put a spell pn me or something..
Anyways, I met him through my best male friend (who I live with). They are like brothers.
When we first met it was like I was hit by thunder (I can't believe I'm describing it this way, I'm way into deep) he stayed in our appartment because he had to be in town for work first thing in the morning so we went out for a drink and had so much fun! We have a lot in commen!
When we got back we kissed and the attraction was SO THERE but I didn't want to ruin anything so he went to sleep in the living room and I slept in my room. In the morning he knocked on my door and brought me coffee, said he wanted to say Goodbye and kissed me on my forhead and left.
The next evening he called me and told me he asked our friend for my number, we talked for about an hour and he asked me out on a date.
Two days later we went on a date and it was so much fun!
We had a drink and went for walk in the city. Laughed alot and he couldn't stop compliment me all the time. Saying how awsome I am and how much fun he has with me.
When we got home we listened to some music (we are both artists) and talked and we ended up together all night.
We didn't have sex or anything besides kissing. We fell asleep in each others arms.
I have to shed some light on his past though, getting to this point.
He just broke up with his ex, 2 months ago, they've been together for 3 years. My friend told me they loved each other but broke up because they had fights all the time.
Anyway, we kept contact after that night but it was mostly from my part and he had to cancel our plans twice bcause he just got a new house and was moving out and in his new appartment.
I thought the reason was that he just wanted sex and didn't get it and was to much of a little boy to say it straight in my face. So I deceided not to contact him anymore, or text or call back.
But suddenly he called me saying he was sorry he had to cancel and that he still very much wanted to see me.
I said I was busy and that I couldn't because I was mad at him.
Now two days ago (it's been more then week I haven't seen him) my friend trew a party and of course HE WAS THERE!
I kind of ignored him so he came to say Hey and gave me a kiss.
I immidiatlly fell like I was raised up to heaven (HAHA) Damn him!
So after the party at home we all went out. The group we were with took the car and he offerd to give me a drive to the club on on his motor, so we went together.
It was perfect and we had a great time till things started to get intimate again. We were making out all over the club (I couldn't help myself - that thing between us was just to strong).
And of course we ended up at my place. Had sex for 3 hours non stop and every other 30 minutes! It was the craziest night in my life!
The next morning we had breakfast together and just laid together, talking and having sex (OMG).
Then he gave me a ride to work, lots of kissing and hugging and went home...
Now even that I had had the most amazing sex in history! I'm still mad at myself that I couldn't hold it in. I lost all self control with him. And all he had to do was jus look at me.
I was afraid he won't call or anything at all and that after getting what he wanted, lost all intrest.
But the next day he sended me a messeage ''I wish you a perfect weekend sweetheart!'' (He went up north for the weekend to spend time with his family).
What does this mean?? And what should I do? Send him something back or call? I'm not sure what he wants from me...
We had a great time but he isn't over his ex yet, I think.
Maybe I'm just over reacting but if so the I just wanted to share my story with ya'll.
Thanks!
xxx
Guard you heart. 2 months is not very long after a 3 year relationship. That makes you the rebound. The rebound usually gets left. A man recently out of a relationship will search for a replacement, sometimes more than one. They can come on very strong. It can feel so great. Then one day he wakes up and realizes he has not been single in a long long time. He wonders what else is out there. He has to find out. I am sure there are exceptions to the rule here, but very few.
WR, I'VE GOT A CRUSH ON YOU(Linda Ronstadt) is playing in the background as we speak.
Your relationship sounmds so yummy up to the..."shed some light" part. EYES OPEN b/c love is blind!
He was in love with another woman and they had a relationship for three years. But they were not on the same page - they had fights all the time.
WHAT DID THEY FIGHT ABOUT? ...
You need to ask him what's important to him in order to have a healthy relationship. (no mention of HIS former relationship)
Ding! Ding! Ding! Here's where you screwed up:
I said I was busy and that I couldn't because I was mad at him.
You went to say that after that party you made a choice:
Had sex for 3 hours non stop and every other 30 minutes! It was the craziest night in my life!
That's your CHOICE.
You asked:
What does this mean??
This means that he is a mature, responsible MAN.
And what should I do?
You should act like a mature, responsible WOMAN
Send him something back or call?
Nothing wrong with mirroring him with a reply in kind.
Use different words: Say, thank you, (name). I hope you have an excellent weekend too!
I'm not sure what he wants from me...
he sounds like he's taking things slow and doing it properly this time, from my POV. The man in him is missing sex, of course.
TAKE IT SLOW...
We had a great time but he isn't over his ex yet, I think.
YOU DON'T KNOW ANYTHING. So, stop reading something into it:)
Maybe I'm just over reacting...
MAYBE
but if so the I just wanted to share my story with ya'll.
VERY GOOD:))))
Auds
xoxox
Thanks for your comments!
hahaha Audrey omg.. you are harsh but in a good way.
Gues syou are right. normally I do act mature only since i've known him a feel like a little girl again. Like all excited and stuff. don't know what is happening to me!!!!!!!!!!
Anyways. I did reply like you said... polite, not to much.
I'll try and hold myself in. I feel so stupied thinking to much.
So thanks again!
Woman, I LOVE HARD! I don't do love ya..or luv... I mean what I say.
I don't mean to be harsh... I just analyze what you write..step by step... so that I (and you) see wherein the problem lies.
Certainly didn't mean to hurt your feelings. No! No!
This forum wouldn't be what it is if we did that, now would it?
We are open, honest, incredibly.... Goddess
We call each other (secretly) and then we share that we've spoken.
We are truly one-of-a-kind...
HARSH!?!... is so, well, harsh.....LMAO
Now get me a tissue, will ya ~
Auds
xoxox
Hey partygirl1722,
You need a follow up about the situation or about my relations with audery haha!
Anyways, yesterday he send me that text messege and I send him something back. Short but friendly.
I shouldn't contact him anymore right? Or is it oke for me to call him if I haven't heard from him in, say, 3 days?
Anyways just wanted to let you know that I'm not sitting waiting by the phone (no matter how freaking much I WANT HIMMMM!)'Cause I've got a date with someone on Monday.
XD
I think it is best if you don't call him but wait (not by the phone :) for him to call you.
I think you need to let him call you. I recently went through the same thing. The attraction was there, the sex was mindblowing but he was recently divorced/separated and still living with the ex-wife after 8 years together. I was crazy about him and he did all the right things. Then poof! he was gone.
It's a wonderful feeling to have a man want you and tell you you're amazing. I can hear my ex guy in my head saying this to me. But it's been a month and I haven't seen him.
So be careful. Let him CALL you, don't get into letting him think texting is okay (if it's not) because that's all he will do. And try to control the little girl feelings, especially when he is around because that might scare him away.
Good luck!
WomenRule...hmmm what is your name again, "Women Rule". No contact sweetie. He was wishing you a great weekend letting you know he cares for you and though didn't ask a question, so no need to respond. That message you give him will be she is toatally cool. :)
Oh little darin is right! He will think you'll a cool chick by not bugging him every minute.


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