Is no one going to help???

He is overwhelmed and afraid ,,,,, I think,,,,just give him headspace , and put a positive attitude towards the situation,,,, be happy for ur self and then for him ,,, hope this helps

a typical male he is...continue to feel and figure out what you really want...

Well, I absolutely had nothing to worry about! I just got back after a month with him and .....I AM ENGAGED!!!

He popped the question the first night I landed and on the third week he got down on one knee with a ring!

We're getting married in October, here in Canada and then in December, I'm moving to the Cook Islands!

I really am living the dream. I am SOOOOOOOO happy, and so is he!

Thanks Paige, your advise really does work! No drama!!

Wow Ms Vancouver that is such a great positive story, I wish I had been on this site earlier as would have played things very differently with my guy who have split from now.

Congrats!!!!

Thanks! I have a hard time believing it's true sometimes myself. I've never been so happy or so secure in my life!

And there really is NO DRAMA! It's all just good healthy communication and a solid relationship!

Everytime I look at my engagement ring I have to shake myself!

Cheers!!

Yahay!!! Conratulations!!! Wonderful. What I was going to say regarding why he cut back on the emails was because you guys had plans in place and there wasn't as much of a need at that point. But who cares!!!?? You're engaged! Happy for you and don't even know you. :)

Thank you Darlin NYY! I appreciate it! I'm still floating on a cloud and he is more attentive than ever!

Ms Vancouver! First off, CONGRATS!!! that is sooo exciting!!!

It seems to be a phenomenon about the communication dropping off the face of the earth the minute we tell our guys we are coming to visit. I just moved a month and a half ago about 200 miles north of San Diego, away from my boyfriend due to the job market and economy....(I had to go where the jobs were and where i had my best chances, and some other stuff was involved as well) Anyhow i knew my boyfriend was not happy at all about the move, but he totally understood that it was necessary. He helped me move and we both agreed we would get through these times together. Ive known him for some time close to 6 years and we are really good friends, and we've been dating for about 6 months. (He has done ALL the chasing! he asked me to be his girlfriend! He was the first to say I Love You, ect) We talk everyday since i moved, sharing our day, even if it wasn't much of a day. I told him saturday that i would be comeing down thursday (tomorrow) to see him....ever since then, i haven't heard much from him,its like he forgot what a phone was! couple text messages here and there, but thats about it. I left him a message yesterday, and after several sponser text messages (to keep myself from bombarding him), I am wondering whats going on! Is he up to something? is he scared? or???....I hope the scenario is similar to yours!!! The only reason i would think that it is similar to yours is because i have already been approached by his parents, who have told me they would love to have me as a daughter in law...his sister and other family members share the same sentiment...I am avoiding bringing that subject up with him like the plauge even when HE hints at it!!! (i mentioned something once a couple months ago, before i was approached by his family and it wasn't pretty so i have kept quiet on it ever since.)

Here is in hopes my scenario and many others ends like yours did! congrats again!

Hey Adena;

I found out after I got down there that the main reason I hadn't heard much from him was that he was busy cleaning and painting the house so that I would be comfortable in it. When I got there, he was so nervous that I would run screaming from the place and was so relieved that I told him how much I loved it and noticed all the things that he had done. Perhaps that's what your guy is doing. After all, when guys don't have us around, they do tend to let things slide a bit!!

Good luck to you, all my fingers are crossed for you. Thanks very much for the congrats!

Wow....what a story! Congratulations! :-)

Please send this story to Paige! It's wonderful and you're making me cry.... sniff, sniff. This all we girls want! He sounds like a real cutie pie. Love him and be good to each other always!! snifff. tears rolling down my face.

p.s. now I have to go blow my nose, can't even see the keyboard (yes I have to look, ha ha).

I figured I didn't have to send it to Paige, I'm sure she's seen it. If she wants the story, she can have it.

yeah, maybe. Not sure how that works. I love seeing people happy.

I too am in a LDR. We met in April, online, he has been here twice (NY) and I have been there once (FL). He also gets quiet days leading up to the "date". Good to know it happens. We all are (for the most part) looking for the happy ending and I'm glad to know you got there. Very happy for you.

Thanks!

LDR's require a great deal of patience, confidence and faith. If you'd asked me a couple of years ago I would have said 'no way', 'doesn't happen'! But.........I was so wrong!

Good luck with your LDR!

The one thing about LDR's is if they don't work out, you aren't likely to run into him in the local grocery store!

Cheers!

I appreciate the heads up if I ever do get the chance to visit him and if he slows down on calling, I'll understand. that's pretty cool...I guess they all pretty much think and act alike! lol