Question: What Lessons Did You Learn?
Tue Sep 01 2009 - 04:37 am
What important lessons did you learn from your previous relationships or mistakes? Also, give your advice here.
Tue Sep 01 2009 - 01:31 pm
I have learned the following:
(1) if the guy never remembers you birthday ever and no presents ever
for Christmas ( I would understand the first year but the second year if it get missed you remember the guys) no...
(selfish) not matter in they are in the miltary or the average joe
Your in relationship for over 10 years
(2) No going anywhere always my house or his house...no dates after the first date and always came up with excuses had to be somwhere else (does not matter if in the military or the average joe)... never went to movie... or shopping...or bowling... local bands playing
(3) Sleeping with the person too soon (1 date or second date.... another no no!until you know who the person is all about (qualify the buyer)
(4) not meeting the mother or father or sibilings after 3 years
(5) not allowed to go funeral of the parent if you known your boyfriend for over 3 years... and if brother or sister dies you know
boyfriend over 5 years and found the funeral home in local newspaper and showed up and boyfriends talks to you and shuffles you out the door
(6) if you lend money make sure it money you do not need ever....
you will never get it back not matter is $100.00 to $3,0000
(7) Saying he will show up to fix something and never shows repeatdly
or does not offers advice how to get fix or you are stap for cash to help in a pinch etc...
(8) toward the end of relationship when the boyfriend says not call here anymore because sister could not understand the message you left.
(9) if the guy is 50 or under make sure he either wants kids or does not and if he does and you do not want anymore....he may have a kid on his own with someone else... ( how do trust person if they really do not want children then switch there minds)
(10) when it becomes you are going to his house all time and not yours anymore... late at night only (booty call) is what is only
(11) always loosing there cell phone and you can not call....
(12) lieing and makeing you feel guilty for standing up for yourself about something you do not like your boyfriend is doing... example sleeping nude with other ladies and he saying nothing happens? when you told him in the beginning of relationship you are uncomfortable with it... you think it has stopped then you fined out differently..
(13) where there is Mamma boy... there is Father Boy...he hates his father(he tells you this all the time) but his fathers bails him out all the time with money...always competing to get his father becasue his father divorced his mother for another lady and this lady spent all his money etc....then father kicks butt by selling out the copmany to another person and not the sons etc...but no matter how much he hates his father keeps going back for more money or father is sick in the hopsital etc...
I hope this helps
Tue Sep 01 2009 - 01:38 pm
The list is too long. lol.
But my biggest lesson and I am still learning is that when a man makes a concious choice to close himself off from love and let his fears rule him, there is nothing you can do to change that. You let him go and get back out there and open yourself to love again.
Tue Sep 01 2009 - 01:52 pm
Okay Robin,
That is a loaded question and I don't wanna make it long...Will think about it and try and make a short verson!
I can see another 30 million post on this one!
One that I can think of right off the top is:
NEVER make someone a Priorty when you are only a Option!
Tue Sep 01 2009 - 02:54 pm
Oh good one Widow Mom
Tue Sep 01 2009 - 06:06 pm
When you realize that he isn't the one...leave him alone! Seriously give it a couple of months 60-90 days and see what his pattern is...if he stands you up...or if you catch him lying or seems to back off...PLEASE LADIES DO YOURSELF A FAVOR AND LET HIM GO NOWWWWWWWWWWWWW!!!!! It will benefit you in the long run!!!!
Wed Sep 02 2009 - 12:50 am
Thanks for sharing what you've learned!
Let me share with you too!
PROTECT YOURSELF NO MATTER HOW MUCH YOU LOVE SOMEONE.
Wed Sep 02 2009 - 10:10 am
To never try and be someone your not or change to mold into the person he wants u to be.
be u and if he doesn't like it then ....... NEXT!!!
Sun Sep 06 2009 - 12:49 pm
I've learned the following:
1) Do not become emotionally attached within the first 3 months of courtship (put your emotions on a probationary period /hold); in case he decides to walk away and/or your relationship ends within 3 months - at this point you should be able to determine if the relationship if worth any piece of emotion
2) Do not lose who you are to overly please your mate (women are so quick to change themselves, but we are always reminded how women can't change a man - don't allow your man to change you too - be confident in yourself
3) Never tell a man you like him before he says it to you
Sun Sep 06 2009 - 08:37 pm
when he says he needs space, let go right there and then and walk away and do no contact!!!!
Sun Sep 13 2009 - 03:58 pm
1)Never go back, an ex is an ex for a reason. he'll know exactly how to hurt you time and time again.
2) once a cheat always a cheat
3)if he jokes he's a crap boyfriend and is very open to the fact, move on
4) if he jokes he loves himself more than anyonce else, move on
and also a new one today, never trust your best mate - when she says hes no good for you, its cos she wants to get with him lol!
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