Oh heck I didn't know what the @#$@#$ I was doing till I was in my 40's. I was a trainwreck at 27.

Try to stop putting pressure on yourself. No everybody knows what they want to be when they grow up. Grandma moses didn't start painting till she was almost 50.

And STOP comparing yourself to your man. He is focused. Groovy. He is a different person than you. You are not in competition. He will be a lot happier if you are supportive of him and not making him feel guilty for being a little further along in his career than you.

You will find it. I hear you dabbling around in things that you find interesting at first but do not really fire your passion. What does?

In the meantime, take a nice long walk and BREATH. It is not a race. really.

I totally concur with thetababe!

At 25, I went through something similar - the thought that I was 1/4 century old and hadn't done much, just depressed me!!!! But now I'm 49.... and I am totally in a different place about my 50th birthday which is less than a year away. I feel great. I've done a lot. And I have a TON more to do, and I STILL don't know what I want to do when I grow up!!!! I've been in the same career for 28 years, which sort of just happened; it wasn't planned... And I'm looking forward to totally switching gears when I'm done with this part of my life. Then I'm going to get the opportunity to pick something new to do! You will have plenty of time to find your niche!!! Don't stress at all. Enjoy every single moment of every single year... As best you can!!!

Ditto,

I have change paths more times than I can count and because of it I am very well rounded. I have a lot of knowledge in a lot of things which finally at the age of 47 I stubbled into my dream and am following it. At 27 I had no clue, at 37 I had no clue, and maybe at 57 I will look back and think at 47 I had no clue.

day...LA will do that to ya! But if that's where you want to be then maybe a little time by yourself to figure things out?

Day, love, don't take life so damn seriously! You'll never get out alive! I know you're not "feelin" it right now, but just keep doing what your doing, try to relax, keep trying new things (even though it does seem to be a PIA at times) and sooner or later, you'll find something(s) that'll charge your batteries; that'll give you that AHA moment...and that's just what they are..moments, and relax girlfriend, you'll have many,many of them throughout your lifetime..you're just in a li'l dry spell...give yourself a break and just keep showing up...keep putting one foot in front of the other,as it were. In the meantime, try doing something silly, get a little goofy with yourself, let that inner child in you come out and play. You are not defined by a bunch of letters or a big title behind your name..your true essence lies within. Focus on that right now. Tell yourself what it is you like about yourself..are you funny? Do you make people feel at ease? I'm sure you could come up with a million different things about what makes you special, because that's what defines you..it's about who you ARE not what you DO!

Oh my gosh, thank you so much ladies for your responses so far! It feels so good and comforting to hear some advice from women who've had more life experiences, than let's say I or my peers. My peers are just as clueless as me. We're all wandering around lost and sometimes it's not a very comforting feeling. But to hear from you all that everyone has felt what I'm feeling at some point, makes me feel a little bit better and that I'm not well... crazy. It's nice to hear that there is no "point" in life where you get there, and everything is smooth sailing - like with attaining certain milestones in life. I just thought we're supposed to "get" to some point, because you're this & this age, and should be doing this & this thing but I guess not. Maybe we all get kinda lost, and maybe there's no "right" answer, but I'm thankful for all of these wonderful responses you've given. I think it'll help me ease up on myself, and put some things into perspective. You're all wonderful. Thanks so much!

How many of us would be 27 again ONLY if we could know what we know now?

I too had no idea what career I wanted to pursue. That's why after my freshman year at college I decided to go to school in Austria.
I completed my degree in Education because that's all I knew - school. I got double major. Another one in languages because that's what I knew.

Then when everyone was getting married and having kids, I changed careers and got another degree in computers. I took a huge leap out of my comfort zone. After 15 years, I returned to teaching.

Now, I suddenly became a homeowner and landlord. It doesn't stop.
Change definitely happens; it's a guarantee in life that things change.

Even if you have a passion, it can sometimes change and not be what you want at all. No need to fret about, I found out.
But back then Ms. Worry Wart (me) was a nail-biting disaster.

Auds
xoxox

Thank you Audrey for sharing your story too. It's crazy to think that everyone has been searching for their "one thing" that they're "supposed" to do, but it seems like no one's really come up with just one thing. Instead, based on the other womens' answers it didn't seem like anyone really got there. I guess I just find it interesting to hear from you all just how lost everyone was. I am totally feeling you on the nail biter thing - I worry everyday, though I try not to because the anxiety and emotions tend to grip me and I go nowhere. I suppose there's no real answer to anything, but it was nice just hearing your story. Thanks. =)

I knew what I wanted out of life when I was 10. I got bit by the acting bug in Grade 5 and it has been an itch I couldn't scratch ever since.

So here I am at 49. After a lifetime of twists and turns, unsatisfiying jobs and relationships that were worse, I have decided to go for it. It turns out that it is easier getting work as a mature woman than it was when I was younger. Who knew?

I love that song: Who knew? (PINK)

You took my hand, you showed me how
You promised me you'd be around
Uh huh, that's right

I took your words and I believed
In everything you said to me
Yeah huh, that's right

If someone said three years from now
You'd be long gone
I'd stand up and punch them out
?Cause they're all wrong

I know better
?Cause you said forever
And ever, who knew?

Remember when we were such fools
And so convinced and just too cool
Oh no, no no

I wish I could touch you again
I wish I could still call you a friend
I'd give anything

When someone said count your blessings now
For they're long gone
I guess I just didn't know how
I was all wrong

But they knew better
Still you said forever and ever
Who knew? Yeah yeah

I'll keep you locked in my head
Until we meet again
Until we, until we meet again
And I won't forget you my friend
What happened?

If someone said three years from now
You'd be long gone
I'd stand up and punch them out
?Cause they're all wrong

And that last kiss I'll cherish
Until we meet again
And time makes it harder
I wish I could remember

But I keep your memory
You visit me in my sleep
My darling, who knew?

My darling
My darling, who knew?
My darling I miss you
My darling, who knew?

Who knew?

Audrey,

Thanks for sharing the lyrics of that song. I've never heard of it but I think it's great that you put the lyrics out. I think I'm gonna try to look up the song on Youtube and hear it for myself. Thanks For sharing and taking the time to post them up.