Please Give Examples of Goddess Type Scenarios!
Sat Aug 01 2009 - 05:47 pm
Hi Goddesses! I for one am thick, (ha ha) and need some real good examples of real life scenarios that make a Goddess (not a selfish or self serving person). This is the part I have difficulty separating in my mind. Maybe there are woman out there who need a nudge too! Love you girls with so many things to offer and from different perspectives. I love the "Goddess" thread and it is a eye opener and thought it would be good to have a separate thread so as not to take away from the real point of that thread. hugs...
Sat Aug 01 2009 - 08:41 pm
A Goddess will respond like a lady in all situations, doesn't matter, she knows who she is, is proud of herself and doesn't have to prove anything to any one.
Real life scenario: Friend text last Sunday wanting to get together on Friday, 7/31, he proposed, dinner, drinks, dancing. I accpeted his invitation and told him of a place I would like to go. He called Monday morning we talk about the upcoming date and he told me he would call during the week to make arrangements.
I haven't heard from him since Monday morning, Friday has come and gone, I have no intentions of texting, emailing talking to him for a while after this. When I do mention it to him, it will be only to let him know my time is precious, if he became busy, had other engagements, something has come up, please kindly let me know. No fuss, no drama. Nor am I upset by it, there is always a plan b for me.
Sat Aug 01 2009 - 09:30 pm
OK, I was a goddess this morning. I think I posted this on another thread...
I am a landlord and received a phone call before 7am from my new guy-tenant. i took two calls and said it was "too early" to take his calls. He was obviously out on a Fri nite and came home drunk. But this is Aug. 1 and he needs to show "what he's made of..."
So, he calls and calls and I don't answer until after 9am.
That's goddess... setting your standards of what is acceptable and what is NOT.
It's a little tricky in relationships where emotions are concerned and where sex is involved. But if you get past that - then it's as simple as dealing with my guy-tenant. Keep 'em - toss 'em until the right one comes along....
Auds xoxoxox
Sun Aug 02 2009 - 12:36 am
Ebonee..
Can I just say that my opinion of what a true Goddess would be in your scenario, not only would I have had back up plan B and been ok with it. But, I would not be available for him again on another date.
That is just my idea and how I would handle it. Feel free to share with me if you disagree...
Sun Aug 02 2009 - 04:04 am
Think I posted this is another thread but here goes. Ok here's my scenario -
Me and my (ex) bf were going thru some really tough times and in the end he said he wanted to take time away from us, now to me that means not contacting eh? Well, no, he kept phoning and texting (asking me to copy a cd for him, a 'friendly' thing (not what I want)) to which I was politely blunt and then took it in my own initiative to phone him and tell him if he wants this break from us then we need to not contact each other because it is not fair on either of us, either way, he either knows what he truely wants right now or he doesn't, we said goodbye in a nice manner and left it like that, I certainly WILL NOT be contacting him (helps when you're stubborn lol) and it is up to him to contact me since he was the one who initiated the break in the first place, that is if he ever does contact me... Now that took ALOT of guts for me to do because I felt I was taking a chance of losing him but then I thought, if it's meant to be it will not pass me by and if he truely wants to be with me then he will contact, if not, then I know it wasn't meant to be. I will keep doing things for myself right now and not look to find out what he is up to etc etc (it will only hurt ME in the end if it seems like he is having fun without me). I just have to bite the bullet and get on with it, as hard as it will be.
x
Sun Aug 02 2009 - 07:34 am
Ebonee,
You speak like true Goddess. I have a questions similar to Survivor's.
What would Goddess do when the same gentleman "forgets" about another date, or something else just as disrespectful after he is been politely told this kind of behavior is unacceptable? What is you are hopelessly in love with him? Are you willing to lose love before self respect?
Sun Aug 02 2009 - 08:06 am
A Goddess does not reward bad behavior.
Eboneejones,
That is text book,
When you see him, don't even mention anything about the date, he will ask again, this time just say you are busy.
Sun Aug 02 2009 - 08:13 am
Lisagant,
That's pretty good. I still think that saying something like, "my time is valuable and I would appreciate next time you cancel in advance, so I can plan accordingly"
That gives direction to someone who is unaware and sends the signal what is not acceptable. Of course if they pull that off again, I won't be even talking to tell them anything because there is nothing there to work with.
Sun Aug 02 2009 - 08:44 am
I posted this on the no contact thread but it belongs here. Most of you know I am back on the market again, thats what I call it when you have been dumped. They don't dump you, they just put you back on the market so to speak. Anyway there is this very nice guy or I guess man is more like it, we are friends but I have always admired his attitude and I know he certainly has admired mine. We go to the same place and he has let me know that if I was ever on the market again, he was coming after me. Last weekend we were talking and he asked me to go home with him and listen to music etc...I made up an excuse about my daughter and let it go (not Goddess behavior) Last night he asked me again. I just looked at him for a minute and collected my thoughts then I told him in so many words That although I like you very much, I am not going home with you. If you would like some of my time you had best get more creative. I kissed him on the cheek and left. He was smiling and shaking his head when I left. I left him wanting more and I left him with a challenge. So now he knows that I have my standards and will not let them falter. Anyone want to place a bet as to if I get a real date out of this?
Sun Aug 02 2009 - 08:48 am
Thank you Robin,
Great example of WWGD! Because self respect comes before "love". The moment we put love before self respect we become doormat, the mother, you name it... Anything but Goddess.
Sun Aug 02 2009 - 10:01 am
Robin has set her standards, buitiful has spoken of self-respect and I have set my boundaries.
My relationship has been a crazy rollercoaster year where one moment looked promising and the next quite dreadful. This relationship has been retrograde and has made me feel like I was walking through glue.
I am sensitive and emotional. My hopes and dreams for this man to come back into my life have made me feel that I have allowed him to stir up my emotions even more. I felt the need to compare what I assumed to be true to what I am learning now about his situation. But, so far, I have gotten no response. Borrowing buitifil's phrase... this is Anything but Goddess.
He has given me a good reason not to trust him when I called him at home and another woman answered and he didn't come over again nor called to explain.
He has given me good reason to feel that he just wanted a casual yet exclusive relationship with me.
He has not fought for me. He has not called since April/May.
If I were important enough then all these things would not have caused me to be so obessive and feel so hurt.
So, I am learning to set my boundaries of what is acceptable behavior and with any relationship I won't force you to be my friend, won't call at inappropriate hours, won't beg for forgiveness, won't apologize for grieving.
I'm looking for abundance in my life which includes money, balance, and inner peace - wealth. I'm learning to become more independent in my thinking and what it takes for me to be happy and fulfilled.
Auds
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