Uh-oh, party-crasher?

Yep, he could at least build up a relationship and trust with us first.

sell, sell, sell! you can't blame the guy for trying, after all this is a great venue. :)

Robin, LMAO.. touche!!

Very good come back....

I'm hardly a "party crasher". I live in NYC and see so many unhappy and miserable women all the time, and ninety-nine times out of a hundred, the source of their misery is a man, or not having one. I'm dead serious!

I give my female friends relationship advice and tips all the time, FOR FREE! Dr. Phil has nothing on me! I provide therapy, help them with their homework in their college courses(I hold a B.A. in Economics), and basically provide the "red leather couch", all on my own time and dime.

So I think it's a little unfair for you ladies to characterize me so quickly. And yes, I would love to get to know all of you better, what makes you tick, what makes you sad, what turns you off about the men you date. Feel free to share and I would be more than happy to provide my insight and "take" on any situation you come across.

God Bless

Hi Robin,

What's going on in NC? I'm in NYC, but don't hold that against me. So how is dating treating you? And what part of the Tar Heel State(my older brother loves the Heels and reveres Dean Smith) do you live in?

I'm a single guy with very few guy friends - most of my friends happen to be women of all races. They tend to like my honesty and ability to cut to the core of any matter. I guess they like my "realness", if you will.

In any event, it's nice meeting you. I'd love to learn more about your perspective on dating and why men and women seem so at odds these days - many men treat women poorly and many women are a bit superficial and "dreamy-eyed". I think there's a great divide between the sexes and neither does much work trying to better understand the other. That's just my opinion, of course, nothing etched in stone.

I look forward to hearing from you.

God's Blessings & Safety,

Carl

Carl,

As RC said, "Yep, he could at least build up a relationship and trust with us first."

You entered the site peddling wares, without an introduction, what is one to think?

I'm not trying to "sell, sell, sell" so much as help. I give dating advice all the time, FOR FREE! I happen to know a lot about male-female relationships, and anytime I can provide valuable insight to a male or female, I try to.

My aim is to see men and women in less violent relationships and in more stable and happy ones, to be quite honest.

Living in NYC, I see the worst of the worst - and it's not pretty!

I hope things turn around for people as far as positive relationships. Anything you feel like asking me, please do. I'm all ears and will provide the most valuable insight I possibly can. I'm no expert, but having dated older women most of my adult life, I know a few things about them.

God Bless

Ebonnee, how goes it?

I saw no need for a "comeback", as I never offended or insulted anyone. I merely made a posting which was generic and non-threatening. The reason I made the posting I did is illustrated in your response to what Robin said - an undercurrent of anger when none is necessary.

I hope I'm wrong and I hope I can be of service to all on this blog. My intentions are sincere and without malice.

God Bless

ask...I have one verrrry important question for you. Are you a Yankee fan? Now be careful how you answer...;) Welcome, regardless.

"OLDER WOMEN"??????

Phillies Girl In 'da house!!! 'darlin, I responded "good job" to one of your posts in another thread. I'm a newbie here, so it's hard following the drift btwn forums at times...I still jump around alot based on seeing how recent someone has left a post. I'll get the hang of it at some point. (any suggestions on how to "go w/ the flow" would be welcome..i.e. keeping up on the threads.

LOL!!! Nah, We're COUGARS darlin!

Ain't he the SMOOOOTH one?!

Hey Carl! I gotta agree with the above: Most men on this forum introduce themselves and then move on to giving their perspective on our thoughts/worries...

With party-crasher I meant: you trying to promote your work in the workplace (i.e. Paige's forum) of somebody else seemed weird to me, that's all!

But as already said above, welcome! :)

Carl,

It goes, thanks for asking. How are you?

For me the comment Robin made was funny, ALLUDED to the way most men approach relationships, not taking the time to get to know a woman first, where a foundation should established before peddling wares. You saw anger? I do not see how?

Twas a great line!

Just remember one small detail, you came to us on someone else's forum, we didn't seek you out.

Smiles, nor are we not going to drink the "koolaid" just because you said it is free.

I'll drink the kool-aid because I like the sugar!

Oh Little Darlin, I live walking distance from Yankee Stadium, but I do not root for the Yankees. I'm actually an L.A. Dodgers fan and was very pissed when they again lost the NL Championship to the Phillies, who turned around and bellied up for the Yanks.

Now I have to listen to all the trash talk from all of these drunken Yankees fans, including my older brother. On top of that, my Redskins are not doing well in football. At least my Lakers won the NBA tile last year and will win again this year. One out of three ain't bad, huh?:o)

Elle, the CD is FREE! I'm kind of stumped as to how you can "peddle" something that's free. Maybe I'm missing something here, or are you all so jaded that you believe even something for FREE has an underlying cost?...

It's sad how jaded some of you women are - and I say that not to sound mean-spirited, but because it's truly sad.

Maybe if some of you ladies kept an open mind sometimes and not assume every man you meet is only after sex, you just might start meeting nice guys!

Negativity breeds negativity -- that's not my opinion, it's the truth. Negative women attract negative, one-dimensional men. Sometimes, the problem isn't "out there in the world" -- sometimes, it's right there in the mirror.

How you approach newcomers in a forum is probably reflective of how you approach new people in real life. Just a thought...

Ebonee, I didn't "come to" you for anything! All I did was post my review of a FREE(there goes that word again!) Relationship Coaching CD that my friend just put out.

I didn't know forums were "exclusive" like country clubs(God, I thought this country was past all that...)

Men approach women in pretty much the same fashion many, not all, women approach men. Instead of trying to get to know a man, many women are looking for the first sign that the guy is only out for sex, or they are trying to discern how much money he makes or what model car he drives. It's kinda like a wash, huh? I personally think both genders have work to do in the area of dating the opposite sex. To put it all on men is quite disingenuous, wouldn't you say?

By the way, the word you were trying to use is "alluded", not "eluded". Just for future reference...

Peace

Cool Aid isn't a healthy beverage - I strongly suggest green tea, which has many anti-oxidants that are beneficial to your immune system.

And here's a real perspective - this guy's selling nothing, not even himself but he did make me smile!!

I live in Yorkshire, England and this is a profile of one of our locals:

hi im kind caring male looking 4 friends . into most things. music meals out etc. get in touch. xxxxxxxx get in touch, xx, why are so many women bummed out at date sites???? why do women say men are full of sh..?? ive come to the understanding there are many reasons why women think like this,,,,,, reason 1, dont drop your knickers on a first date,, men think your easy n run a mile,, reason 2, dont ask a guy to come stay the weekend, and meet the kids after knowing him 2 days,,, scarey. reason 3, dont say youve fallen deeply in love after 1 week,, it dont happen in the . andreal world,, reason 4, dont ask him to move in after 2 weeks and get the kids to call him dad,,,lol, all these things make guys run a mile, xxxxx my interests are guitars walking meals out, and bodybuilding,, so if your into skinny guys i aint 4 you,xx,... and i always live life to the full, like what my nanna said to me just b4 she died. ooooo errrr urrghhh gurgle ehhhhhh oxygen,oxygen lol, no she said martin be happy, xxxxxxxxxx oh n why do most women on here want guys 6.3-6.4????i hear it all the time....(because i cant wear my high heels)????? ofcourse u can wear you fu,king high heels , smaller guys can be as tough or more tough then tall guys,.. more successful then tall guys, just as much money?? even better lovers,...or is it women on here have no confidence they have to seek it through tall people????oh by the way the tall handsome men are with the young big boobed dolly birds,, sorry, xx, and to all the people who say im always on line.. if you see me online then obviously your online,, work it out,,,,and whats with the super model glamour pics lol?.. leave the pouting to the real models, u just end up looking like a bass, thats a fish by the way, and im not going to get started on the little girl lost poses.with the wide eyes n pouts lol,

Talk about 'shoot from the hip'! jujux

All you can do is be yourself and not hold a-holes from the past against people in your future! That goes for guys and gals!

Yes, it does go both for guys and girls. It is so annoying when you have to pay for other people's 'sins': cheating, clinginess, manipulation, overall craziness.

There is nothing I agree less with than assertions like 'all men/women are like [this or that]'. There is no evidence to back it up. There have been a few men in my life, they have all been SO different, the only common nominator has been their outstanding intelligence.

juju...that guy is sick!! After what he said about his dying nana...dirt!!!!

ask...it's called payback! lol You live near Yankee stadium and root for the Dodgers! You got good old USA payback...Babe Ruth style! ;)

SMERK even though you rooted for the Phillies, you are a stand up person! ;) Wondering which post you were referring to (of mine)? Just do what you're doing and hop around like the rest of us do and you will get the feel of each person. :) it is quite an education and there are some neat people on here!

E...Please tell me the "kool aid" thing has nothing to do with Ghana!!!!!!!

Looks like I'm the only one up...took a nap, can't sleep! It's lonely here....

"How you approach newcomers in a forum is probably reflective of how you approach new people in real life. Just a thought..."

If a man approached me trying to give me free cd's on the streets of New York City I would be inclined to be believe he was a hustler boosting wares. Not a legit man who is about love and helping people, but then again that just may be my negative view of the world.

As I would say in the real world, no thanks.

BTW thanks for the human spell check..

What about you Carl, are you married, in a healthy happy relationship?

Ebonnee, if someone on the streets of New York City offered me FREE anything, I'd at least be inclined to check it out. It's not negative to be skeptical -- it's just social conditioning at work, kinda like seeing people shrink from a homeless man asking for spare change on the subway, rather than fishing around in their pockets for a quarter. People are basically conditioned to fear "others", and that stems from the tone set by our government, but that's a story for another day!

I'm single and free right now. But people define "single" in different ways, if you know what I mean...

oh little darlin, Yankees fans only come out when they're winning, as I'm sure you notice. To me, that constitutes being a "fair-weather" fan, not a true one. The Yankees won, yes, but let's see if their fans will have to wait another ten years before they win again, with all the money the team spends buying players!

I think it's important to be "stand up" when it comes to discussing gender bias and gender roles in a social context. Not enough people "keep it real" when discussing the roles men and women play in the "rift" that now exists between the sexes.

By the way, I never did like Kool Aid! I always preferred Whyler's Ice Tea as a child! LOL

Hi ask4carl,

Well I am A Brit and I know nothing about football.So, sad to say, I can't comment.

I am day 9 of no contact with a guy and I will check out your link. Anything that can help me understand men better and help me to feel better about myself, and is free, is worth the effort and a looksee.

So I will check it out and let you know.

Good luck on the forum here.

Daisey Belle

Hi ask4carl,

Well I am A Brit and I know nothing about football.So, sad to say, I can't comment.

I am day 9 of no contact with a guy and I will check out your link. Anything that can help me understand men better and help me to feel better about myself, and is free, is worth the effort and a looksee.

So I will check it out and let you know.

Good luck on the forum here.

Daisey Belle

Daisey, nothing wrong with being a Brit - I just wouldn't touch the bland food over there! LOL
Yes, this free material is actually good if for nothing other than getting a "balanced", non-agenda oriented perspective on the male-female thing. I wish you the best of luck in getting a better and healthy handle. Really, men are pretty simple creatures when you get right down to it, though...

Carl