Not sure what to do, any advice gratefully received - meeting ex tomorrow

Hello all

I've posted on here a month or so ago when the situation I was in with a guy went 'bang'. Short version - we'd had 12 dates, all at his request, he weas taking me out to great places, was really attentive, seemed very keen, invited me to go on holiday with him. I didnt call him or text him first until he mentioned I didnt. Over a two week period things went downhill rapidly though. He had two very full on weeks at work and his daughter came over. I didn't hear from him like I used to (i.e. 4 days went past without contact, then he cancelled a date as was working all day, then we saw each other, he was exhausted, planned another date, he cancelled as got stuck working until 1am and then I left him a vmail meaning to sound like 'it would be grate to hear from you' so he'd feel appreciated but he took that as a 'please call me' message...clearly felt pressurised, went awol for 5 days, I had two big nights out, was hungover, ended up texting saying 'i didnt deserve to be treated like this, it's not ok'. We met up, he said he was drowning in work plus he had a lot of pressures on his time (daughter, plus family issues...he's had lots of counselling etc historically after his divorce 8 years ago) plus he did this whole 'i dont know if I want kids again and I dont want to ruin your life' thing. So that was done and dusted. I was pretty gutted and cried although I never got angry etc. I can see I made mistakes, I should have just let him be when he was really stressed.

Yeah, that's the short version. The long version is great for insomniacs.

So, fast forward 2 months and he and I are due to meet up tomorrow. I move to New York from London at the weekend for 2 months so it's a catch up before I go type thing (I suggested before Christmas that it would be cool to do drinks before I go...he agreed to see me as soon as he got back from his holiday, which is tomorrow).

We met each other on the internet. He took his profile down after our 3rd date and I did so after our 6th. I went online last night and his profile is back up (as is mine, mine's been back up for about a month but I havent logged on much). He has a new photo.

I still like him. There's lots of stuff I want to say as when we broke up I was upset and hungover and didnt articulate ANYTHING well. A couple of weeks before Christmas I sent him a message saying I was sorry for being a freak out girl and that I think we'd both freaked out (nb he said himself that he'd freaked out, I was the first person he'd had more than 1 date with in 2 years) and it kind of snowballed, which was a shame. Then I added the bit about a potential drink.

Basically I'd like your views.

Should I even meet up with him tomorrow or is this pointless? Should I give him a get out option (i.e. say I was ill last week - I was - and that if he was worried about catching germs then I'd understand if he didnt want to meet)?

Or should I just think this man just messed me about - pursued me, acted super keen, asked me on holiday, then dropped me a couple of weeks later and used the old 'too busy' excuse? At the time when he said all that I said 'I you just trying to say you dont want something with me, cos I'd rather you just said it straight if that's the case' but he went on about how it wasnt that black and white and I knew from the outset that he had a lot of competing issues...The annoying thing is, those issues are not major problems for me, but he obviously thinks they are.

What to do??!

Thank you in advance.