No Drama Really Works

I have to give you some encouragement. DWD really works! Especially the Dating Yourself and Stopping your natural instincts and let him come to you.

I had already been doing the Dating Myself for a couple of years before I read DWD with out knowing it. I had worked through my issues with a therapist and was already going out by myself to do the things I enjoy – eating out, dancing at clubs, going to Football games, taking classes, and other things. I was always by myself. But, finally for the first time in my life, I knew who I was and I loved myself. I was and am confident I can handle anything life can throw at me. But I was still a mess at dating. I was 47 and alone.

I decided to take 6 months off of dating and just focus on other things. One night while dating myself, I went into a kiddie bar (20 something’s meat market and not a place I ever expected to meet a quality man my age & I was not looking to meet anyone) after an evening of treating myself to a gourmet dinner. I just stopped in for one drink. On the way out the door I stopped in the rest room. When I came out I saw a back room for the first time and decided to check it out. I was about 30 seconds from leaving for home when John approached me. We talked for hours that night and couldn’t get enough of each other. I found out later he wasn’t looking either and it took him 5 times of walking over to talk to me, chickening out, and walking away before he finally said hello.

I had to summon every ounce of my new strength to not call him and I let him contact me. The No Contact was so worth it. This wonderful man told me the first night that we would not be sleeping together for a long time. Not until we both knew that we had a solid exclusive relationship. He was everything I ever wanted. After a particularly bad date 18 months ago I made a list of the qualities I wanted/needed in a man. It was a fantasy list. It was something I could look to when I met someone and compare him to that list. It was a “in the best of all possible worlds wish list”. John has every single quality on my list! Even the silly, unique, obscure ones. I am still in shock.

We are together now. We will never be apart. When I stopped looking, was confident in myself, and just enjoying my life I met the man I had been longing for all my life. When I let him call me, I knew he wanted me. When we did not have sex, I knew he wanted me. When he couldn’t wait to introduce me to family and friends, I knew what that meant and stayed patient. When he talked about plans for us months in the future, I knew what that meant and stayed patient. When we dated, there was only deep intimacy and no sex (until recently).

DWD works. I didn’t believe it would work for me. But it did. I found a quality man, my age, that I will grow old with.

Good Luck in your drama free dating and THANK YOU PAIGE!

Cara