Thu Sep 10 2009 - 11:49 am
Thats what I needed,
This is really doing my head in now. I need to know what is going on and what he will decide. I am not staying in limbo like this any longer.You are right. I will write the note and give it to his Dad.
Then I will wait on the response and then I will know.
Thankyou
Thu Sep 10 2009 - 01:27 pm
Ladies I just watched this video and I thought she made some good points here. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p6K-Iu7VGSc
Let me know what you think.
J
Thu Sep 10 2009 - 01:33 pm
Hi Lea,
Read the underlying red flags here....He's a truck drive but only see you on weekends. Secondly, he's 51 years old still living with his mother. Give me a break! This guys a looser. Look at it this way you were saved from a life of doom. Any man still living with his mother at that age isn't a person who is reliable. Their more likely a dependent to their mate. So, get ready, put on that song from Tupac Shukar "Keep Your Head Up" and "Love Stinks" By the jaygle band. Just stay here for our support and you will make it through.
Thu Sep 10 2009 - 01:50 pm
thank you so much to your reply. it doesnt make sense at all. i was honest, faithful, good to him and to his whole family, my life revolved around him in the last 18 mos. and I made sure that i was with him when he goes home from his work every other weekend. i work hard i'm a surgical nurse i made sure that i spend time with him when his home. what do i do with this engagement ring?? he calls me and check if I'm doing okay. and i said I'm working alot and staying busy and thats all he would asked me and hang up. i dont understand at all. friday ago he told me he doesnt want no relationships with me, were no longer boyfriend and girlfriend. he told me not come back at his mamas house anymore. we are zero, we are nothing anymore, he said he want to move on, why does he still calls me?? it make me confused? I cried alot since he dumped me. it so painful. thank you so much to your reply would like to hear from you all. love you all. lea
Thu Sep 10 2009 - 02:03 pm
saucymama,
I don't feel the need for a face to face at all. I don't feel the need for closure at this point. He would have to come to me more significantly than the brief emails. I just don't want to be drawn into friendship only. I believe this could happen very easily...I know myself too well.
Thu Sep 10 2009 - 02:14 pm
Hi Annalisa,
Ok the letter has gone. I asked his Dad to bring our son round and then we had a little chat and I gave him the note for him. I wrote what you said!
I feel really much better now as things are clearer now, a simple answer.
Why was I so stupid beating about the bush and just not coming out with it. Maybe I was afraid of the answer but I am now looking forward to the answer so then I will know whether to move on or not.
Your advice was very much appreciated.
X
Thu Sep 10 2009 - 02:15 pm
Lea -- Don't answer his calls anymore. Do not!!! No, no, no!!!
NO CONTACT!!!
Let him wonder what life without Lea is all about!
Let him miss you!!!
He is confusing you!
You need to un-confuse him!
How does a man gain clarity?
By distance.
By not hearing your voice.
By not being able to reach you.
You did nothing wrong.
The engagement ring?
After he ditched you and told you he wants nothing to do with you and left you hi and dry, you have a right to keep it.
If he had been a gentleman about it, then the correct thing to do is return it. That's what Miss Manners says. But with the way he left you, no, m'am. Keep it.
I advised a friend of mine to sell hers and use the money to buy breast implants.
She was flat as a board and had always wanted nice breasts.
She did it.
And she came and stayed with me during recovery.
She was so glad she did it! It gave her so much self confidence!!!
A gift to herself!
Not to sound shallow, but do something fun.
Sell the ring and go on a trip.
I'm into symbolism and rituals and doing things that are shocking to shock myself out of the love.
Don't answer that phone, girl.
Ignore his messages.
Thu Sep 10 2009 - 02:17 pm
CA -- good. Glad it helps. When you get the answer, act swiftly and decisively. Don't waver. A Goddess knows what she wants. The whole pie. Never waver.
If he does not respond as you want, then make your move and move on.
Thu Sep 10 2009 - 02:32 pm
the young hawiian man at mcdonald restaurant asked me if its okay if he can sit accross the table and talk to me in our hawaiin natives and I said okay he talk to me for 30 min. telling me about his wife and 2 daughters they been living here in the U. S. for 1 1/2 yrs. his wife is also a nurse he said him and 2 daughters are planning to visit their family back to hawaii in 2 weeks if i have anything to send to my family would love to take it to them and also meet my kinfolks. i explained all of this to my boyfriend but, dont want to hear me out. he said that his brother and his wife told him that it appeared to them I was dating this 25yrs. old maaried man with 2 kids. who happened to be at mcdonald ordering food for his wife and kids talking with our native languages I was so happy to talk to him because we are talking about his family and the news from hawaii. I explained all of this to my boyfriend {his caucasian 51 yrs old lives with his mama most of his life and just started truck driving 7 mos. ago} didn't want to hear me out he already made up his mind that I was lieying and cheating on him, he dumped me a week ago and still calling me and asking how am I doing and this is what confused me and that all he would say and hang up. that you so much for letting me unload my hurt and taking the time to read my letter i would like to hear from you all. love you all...lea
Thu Sep 10 2009 - 02:32 pm
Hey Annalisa.... How are you today? Feel as if I have not been on this for ages lol x
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