No Contact Support Thread Starts Today/Robinincarolina
Thu Jul 16 2009 - 04:27 pm
OK Ladies we are posting all over the place here, so if you are in no contact and having a hard time, lets hang out here. We are not AA, we are NC although some of us may be Alcoholics before its all over with. Those that have survived this, please pop in and give us some hope. Anyway, lets offer encouragement, and inspiration and share our accomplishments. In 30 days, I bet we are all better. If we fall of the wagon, we pick each other up. I will start: I am Robin and I am on day 5. I live in South Carolina I fell off the wagon today (don't beat me) This month would have been a year and my guy was in love one day and the next he just could not do this, just gone. Next????
Thu Jul 16 2009 - 04:45 pm
I am cyclingchick, day 20. Whew!! Ladies, I am a fitness instructor and I would like to recommend that if you aren't exercising, please try to start. It is a healthy way to focus your mind and body and relieve anxiety. I teach Spin classes and if you've not tried it, please do. Or find something else that you enjoy. Yoga is wonderful for centering the mind and body and its really not all new age stuff either. A good yoga dvd is Power Yoga by the Firm. It is 30 minutes and can be done at home. Try it and you'll be hooked! Try a Zumba class, pilates whatever looks appealing to you. Then, you'll be looking hot when the time comes to see your man and will feel more confident. I always tell myself that I rock any room I walk into! :)
Thu Jul 16 2009 - 06:22 pm
hi...my name is itspossible and i am in day 3-4 of no contact and cyclingchick I do a step class and zumba class (love them) but it does not help with taking my mind off of ANYTHING!!!!! I still want him even while I am working, playing, talking, working out, being with my daughter, hanging out with the girls for ladies night out, at church...it doesn't matter..my heart hurts!!!
sorry...we are supposed to be encouraging...right...sorry
Thu Jul 16 2009 - 07:02 pm
well i am not counting the days anymore since for me it really is just over, he is engaged.
so......i had lasted 21 days and felt great, and I do think if not for the, ahem other woman, he would have come back. so for me now it is just....i will never call him again.
So I just have to grieve and live my life. I think what was hard for me about no contact was the HOPE he would come back...show up on my door, etc etc. Now that I KNOW he won't and it really is OVER, no contact is easier. Really. So if you all can move yourself into that state of mind of it is over...it will be horrible at first but it does make you healthier.
I cannot sleep
I wake up in the middle of the night and need to smoke
I can't eat
I have stomach pains all day long
I look awful and tired
But he is not worthy of my thoughts anymore, nor my friendship nor my good will. So there you go.
One day at a time!
Thu Jul 16 2009 - 07:24 pm
Robin, I fell off the wagon today too.
I've been talking to another guy online who wants to meet this weekend. I am soooo not ready to "date" but maybe it would be good for me to go, just to get out there again.
Thu Jul 16 2009 - 07:31 pm
Hi Ladies, you can call me Shar since my ID is what it is.
I have made it through the first 24 hours. I spent the first day playing golf and wanted to send him a pic sooooo bad because he told me last week that I will have fun and to just try. I did and even though I sucked, I looked damn good and turned plenty of heads!
I live in Ohio and I am a 44 yearold widow and mother of a 21 year old son and a 5 year old daughter.
I am a college graduate (I put myself through school when my son was 5.)
I am an amazing woman and I have so much to offer someone.
I will NOT contact him and I know that he WILL think of me everyday until he can't stand it anymore and God willing I will run into him sometime, somewhere over the next couple of months so he can see the results of my workouts and I will be better than he remembered. And even then, I will not contact him and will let him stew a while longer!
Hugs to all here, we all deserve one and let's help each other keep our chins up and our hands off of our phones!
Thu Jul 16 2009 - 07:48 pm
Hello,
I am here for moral support since so many of you ladies helped me through my break up. We were apart for 5 weeks and now we are on day 6 after getting back together. Although, that definitely doesn't mean that we have worked through our issues completely. I have faith that we will.
You need to show yourself to be the strong one, that is, cut off all ties; do not call, email, text, instant message, interoffice mail or send a letter through the post. I know for a fact that the pain is not just a figurative--your heart literally hurts. You have to grieve, and focus on yourself. If you don't care about yourself then who will? Begin moving on, after all, you are the one who will benefit in the end. Either he will truly miss you and realize what he has lost (and by that time it may be too late) or you will begin moving on with your life and eventually find someone else. Neither is a bad outcome when you look at the big picture. Just think: THIS TOO WILL PASS.
Good luck and lots of love to all of you ladies.
Thu Jul 16 2009 - 09:49 pm
Im on day 30 something -- and im at a place that im glad that jerk is out of my life; he hurt me so bad and i didnt deserve any of it -- all i did was love him and wanted love in return and he walked all over my feelings; in the beginning it did hurt; but i kept my focus on how bad he treated me and i was DETERMINED not to be treated like that again by him; Yes, i loved the s---- out of him and he knew it; and instead of him nuturing that, he used me ... to hell w/ him.
and for real, he didnt do anything so detrimental that i hate him; no, he just didnt love me when i loved him; do yall know what love really is? well, that's what i was willing to give him and he didnt want it and wasnt man enough to tell me that i should not love him .. why use me when you dont want me like that? why? and no, he never came out to tell me that he didnt want me and to leave him alone, I had to make this decision on my own -- i could probably have handled it better if he told me to just leave him alone, but he never did ....
Thu Jul 16 2009 - 09:57 pm
Im Lee- on 6 months- no contact - was finally broken last week. I have the opportunity to hang out and be a friend while he dates the woman he left me for. Too many details to rehash- i just wrote a posting about it his week.
I was supposed to possibly see him at a club tonight- but called back and told him i changed my mind. He wants to be just friends- I want it all. So- i guess the no contact starts again for me today.
Thu Jul 16 2009 - 10:08 pm
Lets let this be the longest thread ever. Don't feel like talkng 2nite but tomorrow is another day. Love you all. We can do this together. Swet dreams everyone.
Thu Jul 16 2009 - 10:08 pm
Ha Ha like we are going to have sweet dreams.
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