no contact again. Why they do such things? im over reacting again. LOL

A good way to respond to no contact is with no contact. He is being inconsiderate. Why does he come and go as he pleases. Have you tolerated it before, if so, you have given him your permission to continue this behavior. Do you just use words to express your discontent? If so, actions work much better. Think of it like this, a young boy misbehaves, his mother scolds him verbally. That is not such bad punishment, he can take that so he repeats the behavior because he suffered no consequences. This time mommie inflicts punishment, takes something away, whatever. Now the young boy knows there are consequences for his behavior and it is not repeated. What do you take away? Why you of course.

Guys don't see it our way. They're more "action" oriented. My son is a perfect example, his GF wants to chat on the phone every nite, and he'd rather just go into his man-cave..recharge his batteries, perhaps speak on the phone a FEW times a week and then be fully present in his FTF time with her. As NC said above. Also, they EXPECT us to want them to call us...remember...they do love the chase and unlike us when they're tired or just plain need to shut the world out f/ a while, unlike us they go into recluse mode, not talk to as many friends as possible mode. Even though they might get together with their buds f/ a beer, they're not talking feelings, etc.

Although I know full well how you FEEL, he doesn't SEE (ie think about it) that way. He's probably already freakin that his parents will be here through Saturday and most guys don't enjoy the dress-up holiday like we do. Don't create that self-fulfilling prophecy f/ yourself...get busy putting together a costume f/ yourself and go out and find a party if that's what you're into. It's a Saturday, so there's plenty of public venues out there having parties, and since it's halloween, it'd be easier to go incognito if you're nervous about going to a club or what have you. I'm not the religious sort, but I know lots of church and other singles groups have these kinds of things, too. Mr. Wonderful will come around in his own sweet time if you don't go getting all needy and push him away...do yourself a favor and focus on you...emotionally doesn't feel right when we do this, but trust me you'll get over it and thank yourself when you do...It pays off dearly and seperates the men f/ the boys ( and the women f/ the girls ;P)