Never been more confused..
Thu Nov 19 2009 - 07:01 pm
I broke up with my fiance about four months ago because he began being abusive [mentally and physically], another big thing was he was not faithful and I can go on and on about why it wasn't working out so anyways...
I put myself back in the dating world a few months afterwords and I am dating someone who I was in a committed relationship with in the past. We've been together for a month now. He told me he loved me and I said I love him too, which I do. He then told me later in the week that he wanted to marry me and that he was planning on purposing in the near future-and I would love to get engaged to him because he's such a great man, he treats me like a queen and i know he would be a great father to our kids if we had any together-but i feel as though it may be too soon for that since i just got out of an engagement less than a half a year ago and the fact that we've only been in a relationship for a month... I just don't know if this is too fast.
Thu Nov 19 2009 - 07:10 pm
It would definitely be way too fast if you hadn't known the new man before.
Nevertheless, I would still try to slow down the proposing business. Though I know from my own experience that it is very difficult to do, but if this new man really loves you, hopefully he understands that you need just a bit more time to get to know each other again.
Some questions though:
Why did you break up with your present boyfriend? Have these issues been solved?
Also it would be helpful (and mainly for you) to unpick what REALLY bothers and confuses you?
Thu Nov 19 2009 - 07:22 pm
The relationship with my present boyfriend ended before because he didn't feel that he made me happy. I held in stress and problems i didn't tell him about-I guess I felt that my issues should stay with me rather than sharing them with him [which was stupid.]
And what really bothers and confuses me is that ever since i broke up with the fiance, I've had trust issues with everyone and it bothers me that I feel I can't trust him when I know for a fact I can trust him with anything and everything.
Thu Nov 19 2009 - 07:33 pm
So this trust issue is ongoing? You holding your stress and problems without telling him is part of the same thing.
So how are you dealing with your trust issue without going the easy way and putting it all on the unfortunate experience with your unpleasant ex-fiance?
Thu Nov 19 2009 - 07:38 pm
Yes, until you deal with your trust issues, I'm very much afraid you will continue getting the same result as you have in the past.
Can we help perhaps with this trust thing you seem to be having such difficulty with?
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