my boyfriend doesnt want sex
Sun Nov 01 2009 - 10:12 pm
I am going to talk to him about it after the holidays and tell him what I need. I want to be sensitive and tell him I dont want him to leave and I know he needs to feel secure, but I need more from him. I think he will leave, but I want to give him an opportunity,,, What do you think? I dont want to lose him, but he doesnt make me feel wanted.
You don't want to lose a guy who doesn't make you feel wanted....
That doesn't sound healthy. Is it just sexually? or is this how you feel in general around this guy?
Next time he's relaxing - maybe sitting on the couch watching tv or something. Sit next to him and put your head on his shoulder/cuddle up. Just stay there like that. He'll probably ask whats up or similar...there's your opportunity: 'Honey, I feel (insert how you feel) when we go for a long time without sex. Sometimes I feel like I dont' turn you on. Is everything ok?"
See what his response is. Make sure you approach kindly - not in a big emotional outburst.
Everyones sexual needs are different and we need to accept this and decide if we can be happy with how things are or if we need to move on.
If you think this guy will leave based on you wanting more sex i think there is more to this situation than what you're saying. Men don't leave a relationship because the girl wants more sex. It's not like you're asking for it 10 times a day! Is there anything else going on that is worrying you - fixing the sex issue won't resolve it if there is.