MIRROR VS MIRROR

hey its me again....another question...

I have been reading on many threads that a woman should mirror a man! So if he text, you text back, if he calls, you call back, if he goes into hiding you go into hiding too, if he waits 2 days to call you back, then you don't answer and you wait 2 days too....

Ok, I get at some point either he will step up to the plate and act like he wants to be with you, but what do you "GODDESSES" do when.....

1. He hasn't called you in 4 days, do you "punish" him and make him wait 4 days before you respond?
2. All he does is text and you prefer live talk...do you ignore his text?
3. His excuses are something along the lines of being "BUSY"...so do you tell him you are busy too?

The reason why I am on this topic is because it seems titt for tatt to mirror a guy (all of the time). Now I am not saying to be just so available all of the time for him either.

What I am getting at is this....I feel like I am not holding up to the DWD rules if I answer when a guy calls after being MIA for 5 days or he text me every other day and I text him back within 15-30 minutes w/o waiting, etc.

Everyone is always saying...BE BUSY, STAY BUSY, HAVE A LIFE, DATE YOURSELF AND OTHERS, ETC.ETC.ETC....

BUT WHAT IF YOUR LIFE AND BEING BUSY STILL ALLOWS YOU AMPLE AMOUNT OF TIME TO PICK UP THE PHONE OR TEXT RIGHT BACK? And please note, that doesn't mean you don't have a life or enough to do...THIS IS YOUR LIFE!!!

I hate when people say they are too busy to text or call someone back that they are "supposedly" in a relationship with! That burns my britches! Actually I can't stand it when a friend says that..because I believe that IF YOU WANT TO DO SOMETHING YOU WILL DO IT!

So my next dilemna is...say I want HIM TO MISS ME......when I finally do resurface..be it 2 hours or 2 days, what do I say? Oh babe..I WAS BUSY? Ok, say I wasn't..I just want to play this cat and mouse game? Then what do I do? LIE? Hmmmmmm not me...not into the lying just for him to want or miss me more!

My overall point is this...SOME men can see thru the oh so since she hasn't heard from me in a little while or days, she is going to do the same thing to me game! So why not just be HONEST, REAL AND YOURSELF....and if you can answer or text him back, then do it...I mean maybe the guy will see that you are being geniune after he does his cave man thing or his I am soooo busy with work thing and when he does come up for air you are not playing the games and is a man about it all and COMES CORRECT because he see that you are a REAL WOMAN? And if he doesn't, at least you didn't turn the phone off, when an important call could be coming thru but you wanted him to think you are so busy...or you didn't cup your hands and call the prayer hotline so that you won't answer the phone when he calls so that he will miss you and keep calling and calling making you feel like you are important again....or you don't sit by the timer that is set for 30 minutes ticking so that you will know when you can call him back..BUT you can honestly say.....hey I didn't give you the run around, I didn't play games, I was ready to be pursued by you...YOU MY MAN JUST WASN'T READY FOR ME A REAL WOMAN..A GODDESS...but at least NOW you know what a true grown woman acts like! Nice meeting you!