Hi everyone!...I am sorry to say, I was a drama queen, big time! I am so happy to have come across Paige's "dating without drama". I'm dating now for about 6 months after my husband passed away two years ago. I went online to meet nice guys, and found I didn't know how to act, or what men interested men with profiles and conversation when they did contact you. But after reading DWD, I am confident and turn the bad guys away. I play it cool, and the guys keep coming back to me. I also find being busy with my own personal life outside of dating has helped me and I can be myself around men and just have fun. Good luck ladies and don't think you have to settle, there are a ton of men out there! Katie

Hello Ladies
I am new to the DWD idea. I was in a relationship for one year and he was still looking while dating me. I have to give it to him he never said we were just dating each other. But he felt bad when he was looking and he felt guilty. So i told him to go ahead and look and leave me out of it. Then he asked if i could be his best friend.
Well of course i can, i leave it up to him to come to me and i don't get bent out of shape when he has other dates. I have joined a new gym and have a personal trainer so i keep busy with that. I also have other friends and leave for the weekends a couple times a month. He says that on his 55th birthday in may he is going to make up his mind as to what he wants to do and who he wants to do it with.
well the lose is his not mine. I wish you all luck and blessings. I am growning up fast even at the young age of 50. Hurray for Us!

Hi everyone! I'm new here, too. But I'm not new to Paige's newsletters. I have read, learned from them and my self esteem has risen to the higheset point in my life. I can read one newsletter 5 times and learn 5 different things each time. I hope to learn more and use it to better my life and those around me.

Thanks Paige!!

Hello everyone,
I am new to this site, and I look forward to some great advise from the other ladies out there. I am perplexed. I met a professor at my college and we were instantly attracted to each other. (He was not my instructor). We are both 50 years old. After deep eye gazing had occurred on two different occasions, I was smitten. I started bringing him home baked cookies, blushes and smiles. I soon followed up with a note that gave my name, phone number and a "one liner" that read: If you are interested call me. After two days he did, however; I missed the call. I saw him a few days later and told him I was sorry I missed his call. He said he was always looking for new "friends". He
said he would give me a call but never did. I continued to go and visit him at school two nights a week for appr. 20 minutes each time.
Everything was going smooth and we both disclosed that we were in other relationships that we were not happy with. His was dating someone and I am living with someone. After a few weeks I expressed that I would enjoy spending some time alone with him. He agreed and because of an extremely busy schedule, ask me to be patient with him and we would get together. Weeks passed and valentines day rolled around. I shopped for just the right card. I found one that I thought "was not mushy". It stated how I felt I had met a person that I wanted to get to know better. I gave it to him and kissed him on the cheek. That's when things started to change. He stopped coming to our regular meeting place and I felt I was being avoided. When I would try and talk with him in passing he would go into detail about his heavy workload and still ask for my patience. Spring break rolled around and I ask if he would have time then. Another excuse.
Weeks passed and I finally said to him, friendly, "Do you want to go out with me or not? He informed me that he would have to make a decision in regards to that. I stayed away for two weeks and he then informed me during our next meeting that he had "No" desire for a mate. He did go into detail about needing rest and that he wasn't even taking calls from friends because NO-One seemed to understand that he just doesn't have time to socialize. He expressed that once rested, he may see things differently. For the sake of slimming this down I have had to leave out some details. I am heartbroken and devastated. I don"t know what I did wrong. I have been advised to stay away and not contact him. Any advise out there would be appreciated! Thanks page for this site.

Hi starwater,
If you haven't purchased the e-book that this site is based on you probably should. It speaks to this situation perfectly. I know you are heartbroken and devastated and I feel for you but WHAT exactly are you heartbroken about? You think you did something wrong? Well,we all make mistakes about how men operate and we are all learning! I've read Paige's book and several others about dating and the common thread is that men lose respect for women who appear too eager. At this point it is wise for you to leave him alone.

Hello everyone,
Allow me to be candid from the very start. I am a man, who, some time ago, signed up for Paige's newsletters out of interest and curiosity, to see if her advice made any sense from my perspective, and with hopes to gain some insight into the female perspective. I am not the enemy, nor am I intending to thwart or undermine your activities here. My dating skills are deplorable, for a variety of reasons which I will not bore you with at this time. I am a member here on this website as a result of a recent personal invitation from Paige, so I do not imagine that I am in any manner being devious. I will be glad to answer reasonable questions to the best of my feeble ability, or to join a thread should anyone invite me to participate. In the mean time, I will generally be a tacit observer.

Hi straywill,

I'm sure all the ladies who contribute to this site would welcome any male insights you have to offer! The goal here is for everyone to enjoy dating and relationships WITHOUT drama! And it's a good thing to get the male perspective! Thank you:)

Greetings everyone,

I was married for 16 years (pretty much my whole adult life). When i got divorced 3 years ago, dating was a complete mystery to me and I did not know what to do or how to act. Less than four months from reading "Dating without Drama" I am currently seeing someone and enjoying myself. I have learned not to treat dating like I would my work (loved that chapter). I can't thank Paige enough and look forward to being involved in this community.

Hi Caligirlcindy,
Just wanted to say thank you for your suggestion. I am heartbroken because I had developed some feelings for him. Rejection is not an easy pill to swallow. No i haven't purchased the book but I am going to. Thanks again!

Hi All
first time I have ever posted or put anything in a forum but willing to give it a try. I am a bit lost at the moment I am a forty something woman who has been left heartbroken after a 3 year relationship has ended.
I have never been married or have children of my own and I have been involved with a divorced man who has two teenage daughters. the eldest 17 lives with him. She treats him badly and interfered with the time we spent together.
On the whole we got on ok but there were times that she was quite unpleasant to me.
I have been reading Paige's book and whilst not ready to get back out there, have done a lot of looking at me.
I was wondering if any one has any insight into how I acn move on from this.
I felt that I was a good partner loving, supportive,able to compromise and understanding of some rather large difficulties at times and on some level still found lacking.
It would appear most likely that in my age group I am going to find myself dating someone in similar circumstances and I don't know if there is any point or if I am up for it.
I don't want to find myself competing for attention and I don't want to be alone. How does anyone deal with this?
In other areas of my life I am good.
I have a good job which I do well.
I have lots of friends who are very supportive and a good family.
But in this area of my life I seem to suck.

Hi all, just read Paige's book and all her articles. Wish I had a few months ago. A widow for over a year now, 54 and back in the dating scene, it has been a nightmare. I am too trusting and too honest most of the time and this new internet forum has me spinning. I am finding that men really don't seem to know what they want, and if you give them what they say they want, it all backfires. I am now going to start fresh with Paige's help and book at hand. I just fell for someone 8 weeks ago, who said he was only intested in a long term relationship and things went well for the first few weeks, he called several times a day and kept saying call him, at lunch, after work, before bed. I did what he asked and now very abruptly due to some work issues and other things, he has asked for some time. No phone calls for 4 days, but he texts once a day to ask how I am doing. He does have a mother who is ill out of the country and seems depressed about his life right now so I am trying to believe that he really is being honest, but it just has left me hanging and confused and feeling really stupid as I have become so attached in such a short time and now am at a loss for what to do. Do I wait, do I date? Helpful insights are welcome.

Hi, guess I am the new girl on the block. Bought the DWD book and am finding it very useful. Wouldn't say I was needy at all now, well I manage to hide it very well.

Was married for 17 years and in two wrong relationships since my marriage fell apart.

I have been seeing a lovely guy for the past 15 months and I am the happiest I have ever been. He is gorgeous, kind, well mannered, always calls when he says he will and never lets me down. Only thing is he has never said he loves me. I can't wait for that day. Am following the advice in the book not to say it first but I can't wait for the day he admits his feelings for me.

Hi

Well I'm posting here after I've already posted on one of the other section (D'OH!).

Ah well, nice to 'meet' everyone here; I'm a thirty-something, divorced, and started back in The Dating Game about two years ago. I met my boyfriend last autumn; he's a wonderful guy and I'm in love with him. I've been reading Paige's tips and found that they really do make sense!

I took things very slowly at first; we've officially been an 'item' for about six months now, he's told me he loves me, we've been on vacation together, met each others' families/friends...touch wood everything is great and I'm really happy.

Hello straywill,
I would like to ask your advice, like to get your opinion since your a man...if you don't mind.
Question is
"I run my own business and say it is Sales and Marketing.
I am single and have been wanting to meet a man over the internet. Several men lately are interested, but they are asking questions.
"What is your line of business ?" to me.

Well straywill, I really don't know how to answer that one.
My business I provide a service to men, a Lady of the night.
I am scared if I say that, they will not value me for me, and not contact me again.
How should I answer their question ?

Hi Everyone,
I have been reading Paige's emails for a few weeks now and decided to join up.
I have been single the last 8 years, after a 6 yr defacto.
Now I am wanting someone in my life again but finding it difficult to get past the first hurdle.
As explained above to straywill.

Keep up the good work ladies, this site is very interesting.

Hi MirandaF

I'm afraid I wouldn't be much help. Do you know anyone else in the same situation? It would be hard for a man to get serious when he doesn't feel that he will be having you all to himself. But of course there are always exceptions!

Don't give up!

Hi Gretel,
Thank you for your comment.

1. Alot of men want Relationships, and sex comes with that.

2. I provide that service to men, most of them are Not getting sex at home, if they have a partner.

3. Now I want more, I want a man to Love me, be a companion, be a friend, got out with me to dinner etc.

4. What I really need is someone to be very accepting that what I do is just a job, to earn money. and understand that, and like me for who I am.
If anyone else has a comment I would appreciate your views.

Hi everyone, new here but have been following Paige's articles for some time now, have lots of quetions to ask you ladies, I am so confused over things at the minute, think I will have a look around the site first, then see if I can get some advice

Hello ladies and gents[if any],
Im new here and if there's anyone who has drama in her love life its me. Iv been getting Paige's weekly dating dish. Well, lets just say, the drama continues...

Iv been dating[or so I thought] this guy for a month now. We met online and lets just say the sparks flew from our first meeting or rather connection. I gave him my number and he called immediately 'just to hear my voice'. He called the next day and told me I can call him anytime and email him anytime.Three days later, he sent me a text saying he seems to be falling in love with me and I was smitten... I told him I also have fallen in love with him. Mind u, Iv havent been dating for a year... That entire week, I was in heaven.From our first meeting[online], he suggested I visit him. He lives in a neighbouring country but just some 6/8hrs distance. Well, at first we argued about it but eventually agreed to talk about it as we go along.
To cut the DRAMA short, he stopped calling let alone text. Yesterday, I phoned him after 4 days of non communication. During the 4 days, I sent him a Good morning text but never responded. He is been sulking about a friend of his who apparently stole his laptop while visiting the friend. Last week he told me has stress and when I asked him if he needs some space, he said he never said that. Yesterday, I asked him if I should give up on us, he said NO. He said the reason that he doesnt call, doesnt mean we are over. I did ask him before that if at anytime he feels like he doesnt want US, he should tell me since Im not able to read between the lines. He assured me that if he no longer wants our relationship, he will tell me. Iv sent him my photos though I already had one in my profile but hasnt bother to send me one just so atleast have an idea of what he looks like. Iv sent him a survey just to find out a few basic things about him but never responded. His profile doesnt say much about him. He once told me he was serious abot us. He doesnt communicate much and Im starting to think we are over.

Please help, because Im all sorts of confused and dont want to assume we are okay when we are not. My last relationship was also a distant one and took me a year to realise we are never meant to be. I dont want to repeat the same mistake... A man's view will be very much appreciated but ladies!!!! Ur expert advise is very much welcome....

Thanks for keeping up with the DRAMA and getting so far... God bless all of u.

Hi I'm Elaine and new to this site. Like most I have been following Paige and her weekly dish! I even bought her book but unfortunately my pc broke and I lost it all before I had a chance to read it properly.... hence I am still having problems meeting the right guys and steering the men I like to me. I am an attractive woman in her 50's and quite a positive confident woman!! still its dammed hard I have to say. I have posted a message on the board "understanding relationships" "To date or not to date" If there are any women or men who can help I would be grateful...... best wishes to you all xx

Hi Leungolelebogang,

It is wonderful when the sparks fly, yes? I am glad you got to feel it for that first week - I enjoy that part of meeting a potential love interest, too!

By what you wrote, I believe you already know that this man may be more drama than you care to be involved with. I'm referring to 1) "the friend" who "stole" his laptop (are you kidding me, guy?) and 2) his telling you that he has alot of stress in his life (which has definitely got to be true). But think about it - to be with him would be to experience these issues (and likely many others like them, too) - is this the type of man you really want?

Besides, finding a great partner that meets up to your standards is not supposed to be just anyone, but "THE one" - if this guy is not 100% delightful (okay, 98%), how lucky for you that he did not take up more of your precious time!

I say be happy he is being honest in word and deed (as he likely is) and be thankful that your heart was not more invested than it could have been. As you have never met "face-to-face", it should be fairly easy to do no matter how disappointed you might be. There's lots of other really nice, great men out there waiting for the chance to meet you!

You want a man that doesn't just "talk the talk" but "walks the walk". You deserve a man who does not give you drama right at the start. Trust me, you will find THE one, and you will be glad you were available and your time not taken up by some "guy" with, at minimum, a bad friend and alot of stress.

Remember Paige's bottom line every time = NO DRAMA! That means yours OR his. Read her book (or read it again) - it really works!!

Hope this helps and good luck to you!

Deb

By the way, I am glad to be here - I got Paige's book over a year ago and her advice has changed the way I date and relate - for the better! (Thanks, Paige!)

Hi to everyone that reads this. I have been getting e-mails from Paige about DWD. The thing is I don't date much and haven't in a long time. I was married once to a man for over 15 years who was unfaithful for pretty much our whole marriage. I finally got the courage to divorce him and get my life on track. I went back to school and got a degree so I could support myself and children so I wouldn't have to face that kind of heartache ever again. Needless to say, I did end up in two short relationships with men who were similiar in character. I am now fifty years old, have been divorced for over 15 years, and I still want to experience a mutuial loving relationship. I realize its something in me and I need to correct it before I could go any further with this hope of mine. I have been seeking advice from God in this matter and for some reason was led to this websIte. Maybe I will find the answers here...who knows. But what I do see are good women with good hearts who are sincere about finding the right man just as I am....for this reason alone I must be headed in the right direction. I do plan on buying the book and will correspond as much as possible. God Bless Us Ladies and Take Care.

Hi Ladies,
Any other comments or replies would be greatly appreciated.

Question is up above in my other post.

Look forward to your reply.

hii everyone,i come by this site some few weeks ago.with man problem.and am glad.so many of you took the time to answer me,thank you all from the bottom of my heart,specially gratel&marmoty ,i can't thank you enought.i took your advice to heart.i have'nt got paige's book yet ,but i will soon.god bless you all

Hi ladies

Am new to the site, read DWD, as i am starting to date again after 30 yrs, has helped my confidence i am learning so much have so much to learn. would apriate comments and tips.