hey daisey..I hope you get a reply b/c I am kind of in the same situation!

so annoying. i am not going to initiate contacts (following the rules) since I already returned his call once.

well good luck on that...I have noticed that unless I do initiate contact...I probably wouldn't be talking to anyone! WOW!

Hey Itspossible-

I don't call them and don't ask for their number. I let them take the lead. If the guys are interested, they will ask for the phone number and will call. The dating site that I join allows us to send icebreakers to our matches, so I would send an "icebreaker" to say "hi", but that's pretty much all I do.

Good luck with your search : )

I don't ask for numbers but I will send a short sweet message if I see that I might be interested in him!

YOu don't give him any certain number of days. You are so busy with your fabulous life that you don't notice how long or if he even calls back.

Daisy, I suggest not waiting at all. If he says he calls, I just go about business as usual until he does. But do not call (except to return calls of course. That is only polite)

Oh I love that one! Now, how do I start having this wonderfully, busy, fabulous life? LOL

Do you seriously want to know? because at the beginning of this year I had hardly any life at all. Now I am out every weekend and a couple of nights a week.

Just go out. Find stuff you want to do and do it. I am a karaoke princess so I found a place to go and sing, I just sucked it up and went. Met a lot of nice people. I wanted to get involved with theater and film so I Googled auditions in my city, got on a mailing list and went to some auditions and got some parts. Met some great people.

I joined MeetMarketAdventures.com and signed up for some events. Met some nice people. Haven't met the man of my dreams yet but at least I am getting out of the house.

If he is interested in anything more after your brief conversation, he will call you. I wouldn't do any waiting. Dismiss it and move on. By the time he calls you, you may have already made another connection with another guy. If he doesn't call, then it's his loss. I would put him out of your mind.

Good luck,
Margaret

HEY LADIES...I DON'T THINK SHE "LITERALLY" MEAN WAITING BY THE PHONE AND NOT HAVING A LIFE....but maybe along the lines of when should she write off not hearing from him or that he isn't interested???? Like if its 2 weeks and he never calls, is that an indication to "assume" that he never will call? Not that she won't go out and date others, or have a good time with family and friends or do whatever makes her happy, but just a timeline of when to say...its been 2 weeks and joeschmoe never contacted me..guess he isn't interested!

Whilst I'm all for women calling "time" to a man who doesn't treat you well, I have a man who calls me on average every six weeks or so for a date. The date itself is wonderful and he treats me like a queen. He picks me up from my house, he whisks me off to dinner and a show, he makes all the arrangements, and he pays. He compliments me sincerely, and tells me at the end of the evening what a marvelous time he's had.

I did initially fuss about the lack of contact between dates, but now I just accept it for what it is - a nice man who wants to spend time in the company of an attractive and intelligent woman. And I don't fuss in the slightest that he's not more active than what he is.

Perhaps your guy might also be one of these, in which case, you have the choice to either write him off for wasting your time or just go with the flow and enjoy it for what it is or has been. I know which one I prefer! (And the plus for me is I get to enjoy a very nice occasional date, with a very nice man).

If someone doesn't call you within 2 weeks, I'd say he is not interested. I'm sorry but let's face it, if a guy is interested he will call and he should call within 3 days. Anything longer than that would tell me that he is either not interested or he is a player. You deserve better than that. And no I don't suggest you should be literally waiting by the phone, but by waiting I mean thinking about it etc. It's better to keep busy in your own life and not put too much emphasis on him calling.

If it's right, it should be effortless. And when it is right, it will be.

Good luck!

I tend to agree with Margaret. Personally I couldn't be bothered with someone who only called every few weeks - or I certainly wouldn't treat them as a serious 'prospect'.

That said, I can also see Trace's point of view. If you are happy to be in a date-every-so-often-scnenario with a nice man then providing you're enjoying a full and active life and not placing too much dependence on the outcome of such a relationship, then you've nothing to lose.

Yes, with this guy I see every six weeks or so, I certainly don't treat him as a serious prospect. He's just someone I see on an irregular basis.

Because he treats me so well, (he's a real gentleman and I love all the little things he does to make me feel special -like opening car doors for me and so on), he has rather set the benchmark for others if that makes any sense?

Trace...its good to have friends even if you just see them occassionally, especially if they treat you like a true lady and good friend! I wouldn't think he is the one just yet, but there isn't anything wrong with developing a good friendship and hang out buddy every now and then!