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Internet dating (Need advice from both women and men)

Hi Everyone-

I met this gentleman online; exchanged phone #; he called me the next day and left a message. I called him back the day after and spoke with him briefly. He said that he would call me back again because he was in the middle of doing something.

How many days would you guys suggest that I should give him a chance to call me back before I say "bye bye" to him forever?

Thanks.

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hey daisey..I hope you get a reply b/c I am kind of in the same situation!

 
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so annoying. i am not going to initiate contacts (following the rules) since I already returned his call once.

 
itspossible's picture
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well good luck on that...I have noticed that unless I do initiate contact...I probably wouldn't be talking to anyone! WOW!

 
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Hey Itspossible-

I don't call them and don't ask for their number. I let them take the lead. If the guys are interested, they will ask for the phone number and will call. The dating site that I join allows us to send icebreakers to our matches, so I would send an "icebreaker" to say "hi", but that's pretty much all I do.

Good luck with your search : )

 
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I don't ask for numbers but I will send a short sweet message if I see that I might be interested in him!

 
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YOu don't give him any certain number of days. You are so busy with your fabulous life that you don't notice how long or if he even calls back.

 
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Daisy, I suggest not waiting at all. If he says he calls, I just go about business as usual until he does. But do not call (except to return calls of course. That is only polite)

 
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Oh I love that one! Now, how do I start having this wonderfully, busy, fabulous life? LOL

 
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Do you seriously want to know? because at the beginning of this year I had hardly any life at all. Now I am out every weekend and a couple of nights a week.

Just go out. Find stuff you want to do and do it. I am a karaoke princess so I found a place to go and sing, I just sucked it up and went. Met a lot of nice people. I wanted to get involved with theater and film so I Googled auditions in my city, got on a mailing list and went to some auditions and got some parts. Met some great people.

I joined MeetMarketAdventures.com and signed up for some events. Met some nice people. Haven't met the man of my dreams yet but at least I am getting out of the house.

 
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If he is interested in anything more after your brief conversation, he will call you. I wouldn't do any waiting. Dismiss it and move on. By the time he calls you, you may have already made another connection with another guy. If he doesn't call, then it's his loss. I would put him out of your mind.

Good luck,
Margaret