I'm in love with an extremely shy guy, HELP!!!!

I previously tried commenting to your post, but seems like it didnt go through... What I wanted to say is to give him hints. Are you patient to wait till he gets better? If so, I say go out try to get him involved in interactive activities, watch shows and then exchange thoughts, get into literature or writing and seek his thoughts.

I myself got impatient with a wonderful man because of his shyness. But at the time I was young and felt there was so much better out there, guys that would actually not be scared, but I guess that was a mistake because all I have found are losers. So I wasted a good relationship due to my being tired of waiting for him to change. So in other words if you don't have patience I'd say leave him, but if you're willing to help him and really feel its worth the try, go for it. He may be shy but better than aggressive who cant seem to convince you if their genuine or not.

I say if you're in love and you feel he is also, then just tell him you'd like to find out if he's really into you because his being so quiet makes you wonder sometimes. You can be nice about it.

My guy which I left for his shyness, admitted to me his problem was because when he was young his mother did not show much affection and so very hard for him to express himself. Though he loved me he was better at expressing it in writing rather than verbally. I found this out after I began getting creative and would write him cute love cards and letters to probe his thoughts. And at times that seemed to work...

So what I am trying to say is that sometime there is a reason behind the shyness, perhaps someone really hurt him in past and/or a psychological issue blocks him from being more outgoing and/or "aggressive", but takes time and working around his personality to get him to open up.

Good luck.