I think so!
Wed Aug 05 2009 - 06:21 pm
Greetings all,
Since this is the 'is he the one' forum, I thought I'd let you lovely ladies know that I think my current ldr prospect potentially could be the one. He has 2 sisters, one who recently had a baby and the other just got married. He has several friends who are married with children so he is definetely the right age for probably wanting to settle.
I think we get along well and wish it would progress more as we've only met once and mostly I've been having a hard time with the situation but since doing my reading of DWD and other books, I think I am taking care of myself.
So I know he is thinking of visiting me, which is really a big step for him so I am giving him the space to make his decision and hopefully he'll get over whatever issues he has.
But I will probably start up dating again although I am not sure since I have been struggling with finding work and getting my life back on track so maybe I will have to put off dating but I will have to wait and see what happens.
Mon Aug 10 2009 - 07:59 pm
#2
I really want to date but I am focusing on what I really want to do for work and looking for work. Possibly contemplating going to school. This recession gave me a good financial beating and being unemployed is no fun!
But I was certainly doing lots of dating last year so I learned from that.
I am definitely stepping back and letting him take the lead but I sometimes wonder why doesn't he move faster and come here already? I guess I am slowly accepting that if he is the right person, then taking our time and he taking his is a good thing.
Wed Aug 12 2009 - 06:58 pm
#3
Well I decided to get back into dating. I haven't heard from my prospect in 3 weeks so I don't know what he's up to.
I'm tired of waiting so I need to feel desired by men again. This single life is no fun at all if you're not out there dating!
Tue Aug 25 2009 - 06:34 pm
#4
Hi there, just a quick comment.... you wrote, "I need to feel desired by men again". What if you didn't "need" it but simply had fun dating and getting to know some new men?
When you are in "need" others will smell that a mile away and run for the hills. When you are loving your own life, having fun, and dating is just a way of you putting yourself out there to meet potential suitors then it's a whole different ballgame.
Like I said, it's just a thought. Have fun and enjoy! :)
Sat Sep 12 2009 - 07:57 am
#5
funnyone, I completely understand your comment: This single life is no fun at all if you're not out there dating!
First both you and I need to take all that negativity out of the statement. "NO FUN AT ALL"
That can't be true. You're just talking yourself into staying in that rut. You need to be grateful and appreciate all the things that you have. You have a prospect. Now go get another one...hehehe
Talk a walk. Say hi to strangers. Start having conversations with all types of people. Excercise your social skills. Get out of your rut. Be creative!
There are some days that you just can't seem to do it... and that's OK too.
Auds xoxox
Wed Sep 16 2009 - 07:44 am
#6
Great post Auds. You're spot on, we all have days when everything just seems a bit bleak and that's normal, but otherwise it's possible to find something in just the little nice things in life to keep us smiling :-)
Tue Sep 22 2009 - 04:15 pm
#7
well I ended things with my prospect so he no longer is someone whom I think is the one. I guess I was wrong.
he stopped talking with me for 2 months and only responded to a poke I sent him on facebook back in august so I guess he was not into me.
Tue Sep 22 2009 - 06:24 pm
#8
Funny1,
Sorry to hear, hugs.
Wed Sep 23 2009 - 08:48 pm
#9
thanks
Thu Oct 01 2009 - 05:16 pm
#10
We all need to feel loved and desired by someone special in our lives. That's what makes us human; we can't make the ego and alter-ego go away, but we can train ourselves as woman not to settle becasue we have such a strong desire to be fufilled in this way. Dating today is ugly. Try living in Orange County, CA. Good men are very very hard to find. What I think we can do, is get involved in things that we love, continue to have fun and be social and try not to get hung up on feeling as if we need to hang on to the first good guy we meet. It's ok to keep having fun and date, until we really really know that we have found the one we really want to invest everyting into. I am guilty! I got divorced two years ago and have been dating a beautiful 6'4" hunk of burning love for about 1 1/2 years now. He insisted that we move into gether becasue he was feeling insucure about the idea of him being a rebound guy. So I faltered because it was a story book in the begining. As soon as we moved in together it all changed for the worse. BOY! Do I wish I would have been stronger to stand on my own two feet and kept my options open. After a long haul, we are just now moving into a deeper level in our relationship. Moving too fast and living together casues secrets, stress, fights, you name it! We should just now be moving in together. On the positive, we have learned a lot about each other. We are total opposites as he is a Pisces and I am a Virgo which is a tough one in the first place. But love has kept us together and I hope it continues to. Just remember, investing your time takes time and a lot of work, so make it worth it, and TAKE YOUR TIME! That means...Have fun and date!
There'd be no shame in dating for fun! With all the stress you've been through lately, it'd probably be good for you! But it;s good that he is thinking of coming to visit. You're right to tak the backseat just now and let him work things through in his head. If he IS the one, he will come to you, there's no two ways about it! Good luck!