Well then, that may just sum it up. Kidney stones are extremely painful and if he's had them before, the stress of fear of getting them again is enough to put a crimp in his style. My brother had them and said it was more painful then childbirth! How the heck would he know??? ;) Poor guy, he's with you but afraid you might not get it because it's a "guy" thing. Maybe it's like if we try to explain what the worst period is like, huh? I hope he's o.k. The kissing thing, hmmm He's probably afraid to get aroused. Don't take it personal and try to be there for him through this and you'll come out looking like a winner and then...watch out!! ;)