I feel like I am stuck!!
Hi,
I have a problem which I am looking to get some advice on. Six weeks ago I joined an online dating site and have went on 2 dates, the first one went well but it didnt go anywhere as the person involved and myself didnt really hit it off.
I got speaking to another guy, four weeks ago and we spoke for about a week, emailing back and forth.....then we exchanged mobile numbers and by this time he was working away, which he does offshore..2 weeks on, 2 weeks off and we were contacting each other everyday...till he came home, then he phoned and we arranged to meet up!
Last thursday we met properly for the first time and had the most wonderful date.....we spent the afternoon walking, talking went for dinner and generally had such a good time. At the end of the date he gave me a peck and said he would be in touch! I was on cloud nine.....sure enough 2 days later he text asking if we could meet up that night, for a drink! we were both out with our mutal friends but arranged to meet for a drink! We did meet for a drink.....he met my friends, I met his.....my friends thought he was great etc......we just had one drink and then went our seperate ways. I would like to say i left with my friends first, didnt want to intrude on his time with friends or with my time with friends.....i texted him a couple times through the night but not to arrange or ask to meet, their had just been a couple of funny things happened that I thought would intrest him, i also phoned him, got no reply but was just to ask where to go as wasnt familiar witjh the city as me and friends had travelled up to a different area!!
Anyway I got no reply till later sort of early hours saying he couldnt believe i had went home early, that was him just getting in, all light hearted banter....i replied straight away as had my phone beside me and I am a light sleeper......so all good or so i thought!! Sunday nothing all day, which was fine....then I mad a huge mistake, I logged online last night saw he was on and messaged him saying hows the head?...........and yip you guessed it nothing.......havent heard nothing all day today, i havent done anything either but I am thinking I have blew it...he seemed so keen, even my friends said he seemed smitten and dont understand why he introduced me to his friends, if he didnt like me!! I know there is nothing I can do but get on with my life but what did I do wrong??? Do you think I should do anything ...
I feel absolutely deflated as I really liked him, I thought he was something special, just feel empty lol!! God what do i sound like.....a pathetic needy female lol...
Can someone help
Thanks
kelo...please stop all of the drama in your own head! he probably just thought it was drinks out with a bunch of friends, had a good time and that was it. no strings attached, you are nice, cool and had a good time but right now...not enough for a heart to heart or a string of text messages, phone calls, etc.
just wait it out. stop contacting him! if/when he is ready, he will contact you! don't keep giving this a lot of enegy. men just don't move to our beat or b/c they thought you hit it off great..just relax and do continue living your life and not waiting on him to call!
Thanks.............you are sooooooo right!! I know have no patience and just want everything to happen now!! ye get on with my life and if it happens it happens...I know I have to learn to chill out...thanks!!
Think I have been so used to getting some contact from him everyday for the last month, I have panicked when he hasnt got in contact!! Hopefully I havent blown it but well am sure I will find out in time......anyways gonna stay positive and busy..
Thanks again x
kelo...don't worry yourself...we ALL have done it at one time or another! one of the best lessons that I have learned from this site is to NOT take anything a man says as "bible" in the first 3 months and pace yourself and not talk to them everyday within that time frame either..b/c you can be setting yourself for a big fall. most men decide in that time if they want to continue or not, while you have made wedding plans or have named your first born. their time is just not like ours! so just have fun...its just "dating" in those first few months...nothing concrete or solid so don't look at it like that!


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