HOW TO GET INSIDE OF A MANS MIND (BY COSMOPOLITAN)
Sun Mar 07 2010 - 11:41 am
It's no secret that guys aren't the best at articulating what they're thinking. Combine that with the fact that they'd rather bend the truth a little than risk letting you down and you're left with a baffling, cryptic code to decipher. We got guys to let us in on what some of their most said phrases really mean. Plus, find out the four things he’ll never open up about.
1. He Says: "We should hang out sometime."
He Means: "I'm afraid you'll say 'no' if I ask you out."
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2. He Says: "I'll call you later."
He Means: "I may or may not call you at some point between now and three months from now."
3. He Says: "My ex is crazy."
He Means: "I messed her up, and she got upset."
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4. He Says: "That guy seems like a good friend of yours."
He Means: "Was there ever a thing between you?"
5. He Says: "It's a long story."
He Means: "It's a story that makes me look bad."
6. He Says: "That's a new look."
He Means: "You look weird."
7. He Says: "Why are you being so emotional?"
He Means: "Why are you acting like a psycho?"
8. He Says: "That's not what I meant."
He Means: "That's totally what I meant, but now that I see you're mad, I wish I hadn't said it out loud."
9. He Says: "It's fine."
He Means: "It's not actually fine, but I'm in no mood to discuss it."
10. He Says: "Can we talk about this later?"
He Means: "I never want to talk about this again."
And there you have it! But keep in mind this interesting talk versus walk fact: Women prefer to bond with their partner via conversation, while the majority of men would rather engage in activities together. So next time, when you feel the urge to bond over a deep discussion, try planning a fun activity together instead.
Sun Mar 07 2010 - 01:00 pm
Thanhks Its,
Aka Manspeak, lol.
Interesting most male bonding does seem to occur during a sporting event not over tea and crumpets, even if it is just hanging out with the "boys," it is more activity based to them then not.
Sun Mar 07 2010 - 04:25 pm
NP EJ....yes they have to "act" so tough that they just can't call one of their guy friends and say hey...can I come by and run something by you (problems with his gf, etc)...they have to just be together when stuff comes out...and have you ever noticed that even in movies...men say their problem with another guy, the guy says wow, really...so what you gonna do, then the one with the problem is like, shiittttdddddd not sure, then the confidant is like dang man, glad it ain't me, cuz that is deep...then down a few more beers and that is the end of the conversation? LOL
but when we dissect the man, the problem and the woman in about 100 ways before we ask, so now what are you going to do? LOLOL
we are just wired so diffferently!
Sun Mar 07 2010 - 04:38 pm
LOL ITS, that is so damn true!
I am still a firm believer men have to leave the mindset of being with their male friends behind when the relationship resumes, the same as women.
While walking down the street a couple was talking behind me, she had a very sweet voice and was telling her bf he had to wake up at 9a.m. tomorrow because of something with a doctor's appointment, which then led her into saying he never does anything, just wants to lounge around and wait until the last minute, you have to stop doing that it is annoying. Are you ready for this?
"Wait, I have to wake up early for a doctor, huh, what, why?"
Apparently he tuned her out and selected only information which might be important to him, lol.
Sun Mar 07 2010 - 04:37 pm
I can relate to #7:
7. He Says: "Why are you being so emotional?"
He Means: "Why are you acting like a psycho?"
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Then a year later on my birthday he texted: YOU WERE DEVASTATED!?!
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Yes, Mister, I WAS!?!
My world fell apart losing my entire family... not to mention YOU.
PHUCK everything except for the fact that it was not in God's plan that I die anytime SOON.
If you don't wanna be around me and my problems then GO!
I'll figure it out... all by MYSELF.
I know that I'm still alive b/c I'm typing THIS...
(SHORT CRY JAG... BUT I'LL BE BACK...)
Auds
xoxox
Sun Mar 07 2010 - 09:10 pm
Hi Audrey,
Darn tooting, shoot, we don't need no stinkin' man to help us with no problem.
Big ol hug to ya, you are doing just fine, you are working on your life the best way you know how, keep up the good work.
If you notice, they want us to complete as possible and only really want to help with those problems that are not major. They believe somewhere we should have it together and not rely heavily on them.
As one man put it, "every time he turned around his gf of nearly two years was always experiencing an emotional over load, with a fire to be put out somewhere. I do want to help her and I love helping her, but there are some things she needs to do on her own as an adult."
He was thinking of ending the relationship before Christmas...
We also have to remember men are not taught to deal with emotions on same level as a woman, he doesn't know what that is about when a women experiences a melt down because of stress, hormonal changes or the simple fact she just wants to be heard and understood. He has been taught to suck it up and act like a man from the age 3, big boys don't cry, so now he is looking at this woman who is melting down before him and he is confused as to what to do.
Here we are trying to get a better concept of men and they think they are fine as is, lol.
Sun Mar 07 2010 - 05:01 pm
Very good, EJ!?!
AS ALWAYS << my signature!
As Always,
Auds
xoxox
Sun Mar 07 2010 - 07:30 pm
Men aren't the only people that tune out women! gee women tune each other out all the time. it's such a human thing to do. sometimes people give out too much information and most of it is irrelevant. maybe if people communicated more concisely, they wouldn't be tuned out so much, but I guess not everyone really knows what they are trying to say so they speak too much to help them get to the heart of the issue!
being that I'm an introvert (half of us in the world are), I tend to think before I speak so I don't ramble on as much as an extroverted person does. I'm in a meetup group for introverts and I feel more comfortable communicating with them because all of us have the same style of thinking before we speak and actually listening to each other.
I agree about how men don't want to help us out with the big stuff. I mean, little things is okay but we have to take initiative and happiness for our own life. I personally don't mind asking a man for advice because usually the advice is good and practical. some men do give advice relating to emotional things but the way they mention emotions is more subtle but there is some acknowledgement.
Sun Mar 07 2010 - 07:34 pm
Here is an experiment, send them an email, tell then something important to you and then just toss in a little sexual something, presto, they respond and no mention of the important thing, just the sex thing. I email a lot of men and women. The women pick at every detail, the men can take three paragraphs, pick out one sentence and that is their focus. It's really funny, I am beginning to notice what they will respond to. It's best to send just one sentence at a time seriously. Same when you are talking to them, one sentence, wait for the reply then go onto next topic.
Sun Mar 07 2010 - 08:24 pm
That is so sad that we have to give them bits and pieces b/c their minds won't function with something WHOLE! LOLOLOL
Sun Mar 07 2010 - 08:27 pm
and actually I read something about men JUST WANT THE FACTS!!!
she..what would you like for dinner
him..chicken, rice, potatoes,biscuits
she..ok, need to run to the store
him..ok
after she comes back
she..babe, u will never guess what happened to me while grocery shopping
him..probably won't but what time will dinner be ready
she..while I was picking out the chicken, this lady started yelling at the butcher about her meat not being cut right
him..hmmmhmmm
she..so I had to wait an extra 10 minutes b4 my number was called
him..so about what time will dinner be ready
she..you just don't ever want to listen to me, do you?
him..I just want to know what time will dinner be ready!
LOL
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