Help! What do I do with his question???

He asked me to "go away" with him Labor Day weekend - do I go? Or, would it be "fatal" to a long-term relationship possibility to go away with him this early?" Details of my whole situation are under the "dating" message board with heading, "Oops slept with him 1st date (after emails and phone calls)- any chance of salvaging his respect now?" Nutshell background: after many emails and a few phone calls, I went out with a guy (we were introduced by a mutual friend) and we slept on the first date - crap - mistake. We live 5 hours apart (he is from my city) and he is trying to return to my city. So - on the 1st date: the chemistry was UNBELIEVABLE, but I wish I had said no to increase my chance of him regarding me as long-term relationship material.

After that 1st date - I started to mess up by initiating contact, etc. and he went silent (of course). I then read DWD and stopped contacting him. After a few weeks of silence he started contacting me again and asked me out again. We went out a second time just over a week ago and had a great time. At the end of the date, we made out like crazy, but I held my ground firmly and did not sleep with him (it was excruticatingly difficult for me to do because our sparks are so intense).

After that date, he called me three days later - and two days later he initiated the following text message exchange (below). HELP! Please read our exchange and tell me your opinion of where we are headed and whether or not I should agree to "go away" with him...and/or if I should INSIST we not sleep together - and for how long??? (note - you obviously will not know what certain things mean - private things between us - but they are irrelevant to the "big picture" and your ability to give me an opinion). I put some comments in parenthesis:

Him: Hey, beautiful - work week ended with a bang! ...but no call from (xyz - irrelevant). How r u? And when may I see you again? :)

Me: Did you close the deal? Bummer (xyz) didn't call - hopefully next week. I'm without {my son} 3 weeks in a row starting next week. When r u here?

Him: Whenever u want me... ;)

Me: Oooohhhh...nice answer...;)

Him: Seriously, r u without {your son} labor day weekend?

Me: Yes

Him: Want 2 go somewhere?

Me: Hhmmm...um...maybe...but we will have to cover "expectations," Mr. Man.

Him: Ok, I expect 2 have fun and enjoy ur company. What do u expect?

Me: Same...with a physical line in the sand.

Him: Physical or virtual or metaphorical?

Me: U know, Mr. Man -

Him: Of what r u afraid? :)

Me: Not sure how to text it

Him: I know. I think we've moved beyond this medium, fugitive-concert pianist-girl

Him: Sweet Dreams
(he tries to leave the conversation here - getting too deep for him)

Me: not sure I "got" it...?

Him: ? Got what?

Me: Moved beyond this medium - you mean texting?

Him: Meant the subject matter was becoming too complex and too deep for txting.

Me: K - agree - not trying to get too deep...might need to clarify something from Sat.

Him: Ok. What exactly? A certain hidden meaning in the folk art?
(he is referencing a folk art festival he took me to last weekend - clearly he is trying to "head off" anything deep)

Me: :) Yes. That:)
(this is me trying to lighten it up, since I realize I am pushing him away with getting into a "deep" subject - yikes)

Him: :) I REALLY like u...We click...

Me: I agree. We just don't know each other that well, really.

Him: Mmmm...How would u like 2 go about changing that?

Me: Get to know each other better. It's how I'm wired. U slipped under the radar, Mr. Man.

Him: Well, maybe that's a good thing

Me: Which is a good thing? The radar?

Him: Slipping under the radar

Me: :) u sneaky thing u. I was NOT prepared for the chemistry.

Him: Duh...How would u like 2 go about getting 2 know each other?

Me: Giggle...duh...I guess time together? I do have my Masters in rocket science, ya know.

Him: I know! That and firearms

Me: Definitely firearms and lots of gunpowder

Him: Damn, that's sexy!

Me: Mmmhhhmmm

Him: I love the smell of gunpowder

Me: U & me both FBI boy

Him: Good nite, sweet FG

Me: G'nite FBI boy

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That was our exchange. I am too into him, so I cannot read our exchange objectively.

We did not "resolve" the physical boundary issue and I am not really sure "where we are" after that exchange and whether or not he thinks we are going away together. He side-stepped my physical boundary comment. I maybe should have said "no" completely about going away together - ?.

Do I go away with him? Do I insist no sex if I do? I don't even know if I can do that - the chemistry is overwhelming. I want to be thinking long-term.

KEEP IN MIND: I still do not know if he has (or has had) other women he is this passionate with, too (he DID comment to me that it was surprisingly intense for him, but I still don't know if he is a player). From his Facebook wall postings, I surmised that he took a girl away for a weekend to the wine country last December and, the day after our date last week, I saw that he gave a "thumbs up" on a picture of her in Facebook - I'm wondering if I should be wary because of that. I must be careful that I do not allow myself to be seduced and squashed.

What are your impressions of "where we are?" What is your opinion about: 1) going away with him 2) when to sleep with him again? I do not want to place myself in a category that decreases our chance of long-term and potential marriage - I really, really like him. I also do not want my heart squashed - but it may be too late because I have already slept with him...so he has a hook in my heart...damnit.

THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!