Help me to understand this....
Tue Mar 02 2010 - 01:42 pm
I had posted last week "what do i do what do i do" where my guy that i have been dating almost two months ignores texts and totally disregarded an invite out last wednesday..
I have taken steps back and my last date with him which was Friday we haven't really spoke since then.
I had invited him over Sunday night to hang out and his response was "i'll let you know"..he never did show up or call. Since then i have taken steps back since twice he has done the no contact thing
As of yesterday he has been sending me GM texts and GN texts.
Yesterdays AM text was saying how beautiful the day was but not as beautiful as me...I think he was just testing me to see if i was upset about him disregarding my invite on Sunday !!!!
His little g'morning and g'night text dont interest me in the bit...i just laugh bc i dont really know his reasons for that...there could be many.
He wants to keep me on the back burner and doesnt want ME to forget him.
He is clueless and doesnt see anything wrong with the no contact during the day or days but thinks his little cute texts will keep me interested
He doenst know what the heck he wants...leave me or continue to date me...
yes,I do hear from him...but its only in the morning and in the evening...when he is saying....Good morning beautiful or goodnight mamita
yesterday, he sent me a morning text that said....Buenos dias, what a beautiful day, but not as beautiful as you..!!!
WTH !!! Can we say cheesy....!!!!
Now i'm sure i'm am right about what i posted ABOVE...but can i get some insight from the ladies here...WHAT DO YOU THINK HE IS UP TOO ??
Tue Mar 02 2010 - 02:04 pm
I don't think it matters what he is up to. You have already made a decision about him. The no show thing tells you more than any gm or gn text ever could.
I wouldn't even bother to answer.
Tue Mar 02 2010 - 02:07 pm
what is gm and gn ?
Tue Mar 02 2010 - 02:09 pm
it's G'morning and good night.....he sends me those but no contact in between.
I think he is just doing it so I dont forget he exists
Tue Mar 02 2010 - 03:40 pm
oh ok! boy am I slow! lolol
Tue Mar 02 2010 - 11:24 pm
Chel,
It sounds like it's really frustrating you. A guy shouldn't be this frustrating so quickly - there's plenty of time for that later. :)
I dated a guy last year who was really romantic and wanted to hang out several times during the week. But my schedule didn't permit that - I was happy hanging out once during the week and talk on the phone (instead of text which was his preferred mode of communication) during the week. I just got sick of it - I didn't want to conduct long serious conversations over text and finally broke it off (for other reasons as well). I love talking on the phone and I really needed to do that with him. The fact that he didn't made me lose attraction for him because I couldn't connect the way I wanted.
I can't figure out if your guy is doing this b/c he lacks communication skills (like the one I dated) or if he's just pulling back. Either way - your response should be to pull back yourself. I know it gets annoying, but try to see it as if you're evaluating him. And then ask yourself if he's meeting your basic needs/standards? Do you feel connected to him?
Wed Mar 03 2010 - 11:45 am
Well that seems to be the issue now...I'm totally losing interest bc he is not meeting my needs. When I got into this online dating thing (which says looking for long term) i wasn't signing up for just "dating" so because he is now wasting my time I have logged back on to the dating site and meeting other people.
Yesterday i got more communication in one day than i have in a week from him.
I'm sure now it's because he is wondering what the hell is up....and just panicking (if that)
He texted me GM.....it took me two hours to reply GM...enjoy your day ( a signal to not bother me the rest of the day)
at five he texts me...so how's your day going.....I DIDNT REPLY
at eight he texts me.....HOWDY.......I relply 30min later...Howdy back at ya
He texts back...how are you, hows work....I just got in.
I replied four hours later (12 midnight) I'm good, work is good...have a good night.
WTF.......Men love bitches right ??.....well he's going to see that side of me now....I dont intend to fall for his game...IF i'm going to get him ..it's to keep him...but then the longer he plays this game....i'm not going to want him anymore.
I dont know if my actions will make him realize that i am a good woman and make him get his **** straight or just make him walk...but i'm mentally prepared for both !!!
Update..so i'm editing
Ok, so he just text me..."good morning beautiful"
I'm peeved.....
I'm at the point of telling him....that if he is not interested in pursuing or getting to know me...that i'm not interested in his morning texts...I don't see the purpose in them. He hasn't asked me out and all i get are these stupid texts.....it's frustrating...
Ladies, please what do you suggest ? to verbalize it or just let it go ???
Wed Mar 03 2010 - 12:08 pm
Hmm... what about just saying to him "I am not a big texter - I perfer to talk either over phone or hang out in person?" I think he seems a tad clueless and perhaps has gotten lazy - or perhaps he's still pulling away - I can't tell. IF he doesn't step up to the plate after you say that to him, then I would just let it go without verbalizing a break-up (as you were just dating and not exclusive). I am sure there are other approaches.
Wed Mar 03 2010 - 12:39 pm
i'm so done TCG....there are things i want to say to him, but don't really know how to say it. It shouldn't be this hardor this confusing...WTF
Wed Mar 03 2010 - 01:04 pm
Cheleez,
He isn't worth it. You shouldn't have to sink down to his level for him to all of a sudden want to communicate. You know he isn't a good fit for you. The more you play his game, because it's his game, the more he can keep you around and drive you absolutely nuts.
Wed Mar 03 2010 - 01:12 pm
this is what i wrote hime
So with much thinking i have decided that this is not really working for me.
I need someone who is more responsive and who wants to get to know me, not just have someone who texts me g'morning/g'night with nothing in between. Good luck in your search....
If you want to talk about it...we most defiitely can....but please babe....call me....don't text or email....
take care
Michelle
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