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Heart Crushed :( :( :(

I've been dating a guy named Stan Brand for almost 2 months now. I met him in college and we hit it off right away. He likes to flirt around with other girls but it doesn't bother me, he said I'm the only girl he's seeing. Anyway, just last week he was calling me, texting me 5 times a day... he kinda freaked out that he was not able to reach me. I've been playing hard to get, not answering his calls right away, replying to his texts a day after saying that I've been busy when Im not. I thought this would make him not lose his interest in me, if I remain mysterious and unavailable (not all the time though). I really like him but I never told him. I kept him guessing. This week its been different. I feel like he turned the tables on me to make me chase him. I've asked to hang out, but he said he was busy. He hasn't called me in 5 days and when I texted him to ask what's been up with him he said that I haven't contacted him either so he did his own thing. Now, he's the one playing hard to get. Yesterday, I texted him and just laid my cards on the table, win lose or draw the truth is out. I texted him and told him I liked him all along. And that his efforts wasn't wasted. And that I wanted to hang out and be with him. This is a major ego boost for him since I've been bitchy all the time and now he was able to crack my wall. I've had my guard up because I didn't want to get hurt. I haven't heard from him yet after telling him I liked him. Also I told him, if he's not interested in me..then it's goodbye.
I just want to stop the silly games. I want him and me to start a relationship. If he likes me, he should tell it to me and not keep me guessing as well. Sometimes I would get a call from him 2 days later. I dont want to be his late night convenience. I want to be his partner. I want to give it one last try. I've been getting signals (music, tv , people around me) reminding me of him which is so weird. Is this guy the ONE? Im falling in love with him but I dont know if he's just playing mind games with me. I am hurt. I really think him and I would make such a good couple. Pls help me. I really like this amazing guy and I don't want to lose him. I dont want him to lose interest in me. I want him to contact me and tell me that he felt the same way.

I just want to be with him. I know he likes me too. I just need help with that. I am heart broken right now. This man is really stubborn and likes to play mind games. What do I do?

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aliciaw1988's picture
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I hate to say it- but games are what keep men interested. If he's into you he'll figure it out and come back to you. If I were you I'd just move on for now. When he sees that you're not running after him his curiousity most likely will be peaked and he'll contact you. Dating unfortunately, is a game otherwise we wouldn't be interested in one another. Hang in there, even if he doesn't contact you-- it's not a big loss. College guys are usually flighty and not fond of commitment anyways( mind you, I'm not saying all are that way.)

 
Isabel65's picture
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Let it go! If he's truly interested, he'll contact you. Maybe by the time he does, you will have moved on. Don't make the mistake of chasing him and appear desperate. This will only feed his ego and turn him off. Respect yourself not be toyed with...but remember if he does come around, don't play games either. Live your life and don't let yours revolve around his. If you have plans with friends, doing school work, laundry, etc., don't change your schedule to accommodate his. He'll respect you more for respecting yourself.