HE WONT TALK TO ME AT ALL
Wed Oct 14 2009 - 01:37 pm
HEY I'M NEW HERE AND I NEED SOME ADVICE..... I'VE BEEN TALKING TO THIS GUY AND HE WAS REALLY INTO ME..... THEN I STARTED FREAKING OUT AND STARTED YELLING AT HIM FOR THE STUPIDEST THINGS EVER...... I THINK I DID SOMETHING ON FRIDAY CAUSE I GOT REALLY DRUNK AND DON'T REMEMBER WHAT I SAID TO HIM. I HAVE A FEELING IT HAS SOMETHING TO DO WITH MY EX. EVER SINCE THEN HE WON'T TALK TO ME AT ALL........ I'VE CALLED HIM AND TEXTED HIM BUT I GET NOTHING BACK...... IS THERE ANY WAY I CAN FIX THIS?
Wed Oct 14 2009 - 01:52 pm
L...wow, you have really dealt the drama card! If you have contacted him several times and he hasn't responded, STOP! He will have to figure out if he wants to deal with how you acted. You might have scared him and he needs time to really think this thru, but the more you contact him the more you are pushing him away. If you have apologized to him, that is all you can do. Leave him alone and if and when he is ready, he will call you...if not...please learn from this with the next guy! Sorry
Wed Oct 14 2009 - 02:13 pm
i am the kind that doesn't give up...... like everybody told me that if he wanted nothing to do with me he would tell me straight out....... but he doesn't say anything to me. is that i good thing or a bad thing.... i've even texted him and told him to tell me staright out what his problem is. i get NOTHING BACK
Wed Oct 14 2009 - 03:51 pm
L...men won't always tell you that they don't want to be bothered...please read the threads on this site! A lot of them are just cowards or don't want to hurt your feelings! Now that doesn't mean this guy won't come back...but if you keep contacting him, either he will blow up on you or he will come back but for a very short time. You want this to be on his time table and then you will know that he really is interested! I understand the not giving up part...but you don't have to stop hoping...just give your fingers a break and him time to think! It might pay off if you just lay low for awhile!
Wed Oct 14 2009 - 03:59 pm
when you leave them alone they always come back.... do you believe in these saying.... i don't. how do i know if he will come back to me or if it's over?
Wed Oct 14 2009 - 04:41 pm
only time will tell. but I do believe that if you keep contacting him your chances of getting him back and really wanting to be with you and not use you are slim to none!!! as you can see what you are doing is not working...so try something different! NO CONTACT....
Do you know the definition of insanity? Doing the same thing expecting a different result!
Wed Oct 14 2009 - 04:58 pm
but how can i stop from calling him...... i've tried everything..... and i'm always dailing his number all the time...... i just don't get how you can really want to be with somebody to not talking to her period........
i called him like two days ago and he answer. i was so happy then he asked me who i was...... so i deleted my number from his phone...... i'm scared to say it but i think he's done with me.
Wed Oct 14 2009 - 06:55 pm
L...do you know his information by heart (phone number, email address, etc.)? if not...then delete his information from whereever you have it...email/phone/ on paper...just delete it! its not easy when you care about someone...but before you dial his number or send a text...say this...I AM PUSHING HIM FURTHER AWAY FROM ME. THE MORE I CONTACT, THE FURTHER HE GOES!
L...to be honest...he probably thinks you are a crazy deranged woman that he doesn't want any dealings with! Do you want that to be how he thinks of you? If not...leave him alone!
Wed Oct 14 2009 - 11:11 pm
Tough love time girlfriend. STOP. you are being incredibly selfish. All I am hearing out of you is what you want. Look at this from HIS pov for 5 seconds. You treated him so badly him that you can't even remember what happened but he doesn't even want to deal with it. How badly did you hurt him anyway? The poor guy is probably completely shell shocked. How would you react if he did the same thing to you?
Would you be running back or would you want to have some time to lick your wounds? No judgments here. We have all screwed up royally from time to time and hopefully you will be wiser for it. But you spewed toxic waste at him and I hear no taking responsibility for that.
You are not good for him right now. Leave him alone. Sorry sweetie.
Thu Oct 15 2009 - 05:13 am
Hi leonyesenia
Please listen to what itspossible has told you as her is advice is spot on. Believe me, she is someone who's been through hell over a guy and is getting over it herself so she knows what she's talking about.
Thu Oct 15 2009 - 11:03 am
yes I know all too well! its hard but you can do it...most of these ladies on here will help you thru it...you just got to want to! call out to SM, Gyps, smiler, audrey...and more...they will help you!
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