He Dumped Me; Should I Return His Belongings?
Wed Oct 28 2009 - 06:47 pm
Paige or anyone, I need help. A man I was dating for almost two months recently broke up with me. In fact, he just vanished without a trace, and did not bother to tell me why. However, I know he's not dead because he's still logging into the singles website where we met. I miss him but I have taken your advice (I have your Dating Without Drama program) and have not attempted to make any contact with him at all. I don't have a problem not contacting him but he left a very nice bathrobe at my house. Shouldn't I return it to him? Not sure how to handle this.
Thanks for your help, everyone.
ladypoet1
Wed Oct 28 2009 - 07:02 pm
If it is just a bathrobe, however nice, just leave it. Or send it to him by mail, if you absolutely have to. Don't use this as an excuse to break your no contact. I personally would pack it away for a month or two (in case he really wants to collect it) and then give it to charity.
Wed Oct 28 2009 - 08:33 pm
I like Kat60's advice on the NC thread.
If HE can disappear, so can his bathrobe !
Classic !
When buffoon and I broke up -- and he did it badly --- I threw out every piece of clothing he had at my place.
Just threw it out !
Serves him right !
Wed Oct 28 2009 - 09:36 pm
What is it they say about possession, being 9/10 of the law?
Chuck it, keeps you from trying to contact him.
I do love a man's bathrobe, extra large, I have to roll up the sleeves and it falls at my ankles, nice and cozy on a winter morning.
You are showing concern for his bathrobe and he didn't show concern for your heart...
Wed Oct 28 2009 - 11:11 pm
Yep! Any clothing my ex left behind, went in the TRASH.
I didn't want it around. It was not worth my effort to return it.
Thu Oct 29 2009 - 04:03 am
Don't burn it or throw it to trash (bad for environment), don't wear it (reminds you of him). Give it to charity, it will be good for your soul :)
Thu Nov 05 2009 - 09:36 pm
Hi Ladypoet1,
I mailed my ex back his stuff with a closure note. In your case, you guys were only together for two months so no note required. You can just leave it at his door without ringing a bell or you can just mail it to him. Me I prefer just mailing it that way there's no sure way of contacting him.
Thu Nov 05 2009 - 09:46 pm
I wouldn't bother returning it. My ex and I were together nearly two years and his stuff went in the bin. Keep it or dump it I say.
Fri Nov 06 2009 - 12:44 am
My ex and I were together almost two years as well. I had some of his furnishings and personal effects. I asked him to get his stuff. I put it out on the covered front porch.
Too bad for him it started raining a good solid bit while he had to load it in his pick up truck. Served him right.
I stayed nice and dry in my house.
Wed Nov 11 2009 - 06:17 pm
Depends on what it is...if its something sentimental and valuable..I would return it...but if its something that is easily replaceable...then giving it to charity would be my vote!
Thu Nov 12 2009 - 06:51 pm
Hi Ladypoet1,
If this jerk disappeared without having the decency to contact you (even electronically), then his bathrobe can disappear too! Don't give it a second thought, he doesn't deserve for you to keep it just in case he pops up out of thin air!
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