Is he cheating?
Tue Mar 16 2010 - 02:13 pm
My boyfriend recieved a postcard one day, it said.
"Dear ***
I really enjoyed spending time with you this weekend.
And whatever happens past this i hope we can stay friends.
Love Sarah"
We spend almost every weekend together and the only time i can think of when we didnt was when he was in Paris for a weekend and over that weekend he constantely called and texted me how he wanted to come home to me, how he missed me and how being away made him realise how much he loves me.
I am confused!
Tue Mar 16 2010 - 02:24 pm
Have you asked him about it?
I get these stupid emails from time to time from girls saying they saw my online profile and they are new in my city and they would love to meet me...yadda yadda
Are you sure this "Sarah" is a real person?
Tue Mar 16 2010 - 03:38 pm
was it an actual post card delivered through the post? The reason I ask, if and its a big IF he did stray on his weekend away, would he be stupid enough to give the girl his home address, and then even more stupid to a) show it to you or b) leave it hanging around where you will find it? as theta says have you two actually talked about this? what does he say?
Mon Mar 22 2010 - 11:46 pm
yes it sound like he is cheating i know what it feels like to
have that happen to you!
Thu Mar 25 2010 - 11:15 am
I agree with regengirl's reasoning - why would he want a card to be found by you if he was really cheating on you.
Like theta and regen, I too believe you should ask him. And ask him very casually, probably laughing a bit as if it was amusing. He might flip off (even if wasn't cheating) if you show suspicion. But if you are casual, and he replies casually who she is, it might be a good thing.
All of us can only speculate. Only he (or his reactions) can tell you the truth. Don't let a good thing slip by just because you became suspicious, and could not communicate with him.
Thu Mar 25 2010 - 02:47 pm
Unless the guy is such a spineless ass that it's his way of breaking things off, but it didn't sound like from the original post that things were not going well in general in the relationship.
Just come out and ask him. If you're his GF you have a right to know. Just be chill about it.
Where is the post card now, just out of curiosity? Does he know you saw it?
Fri Apr 02 2010 - 11:28 am
I need some advice. My boyfriend and I have been living together now for almost 7 years. The first two years were great , everything was normal. Now for almost five years now he doesnt want to have sex. He shows me no affection. I have talked to him about this problem , first he told me he was having a problem. He lied to be because he looks at magazines and watches videos, he takes care of that himself and he has no problems. I told him that i know what he does and he said that he had to relive that pressure. He says that it wont work if he tries with me. he doesn't even try. He tells me he loves me but he never wants to do anythig sexual with me. He also says that if i have sex with someone else he will throw me out. Why does he feel he can take care of his own needs but i shouldnt be allowed to have mine taken care of. Why is this happening to me?? Please advise me on what ya'll think is going on. I have already asked if it was me and was told no that it was him... What does that really mean? He tells people that i am his girlfriend... Yea right.. This makes me feel very hurt and not understanding why is only making it worse....
Fri Apr 02 2010 - 12:22 pm
Bridget...get you a gadget and a movie and wait till he is walking in the door and start HELPING YOURSELF ....allow him to see you working things out for yourself and not asking him anymore...see his reaction!
Now...that might be bad advice, but if you have already talked to him and he won't even try..if you are willing to stay, then he needs to see that you will do you...but if this is high on your list and you really feel slighted, then you might want to double check the relationship and see if this is soemthing you want long(er) term!
Also, see if he would like to go see a counselor or doctor about his issue!
Fri Apr 02 2010 - 12:49 pm
Bridget, if you are new here, welcome.
If you start your own thread on this, your situation will get a lot more attention and advice from a lot more people who will see it.
Back over to you Bella.
Wed Apr 07 2010 - 04:32 pm
Bella, reading this postcard, it could be taken ANY way. What if she threw herself at him and he turned her down? She'd want to stay friends and put the past behind her. Doesn't mean he cheated.
Wed Apr 07 2010 - 04:39 pm
hey bella almost the same thing happen to me but instead of a
postcard I called him and another woman answer his phone.
And mad I hurt and upset and confuss too!
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