Guy text more than calls should I be suspicous?
Wed Nov 18 2009 - 03:05 pm
Hello My Girl Power Pals,
The new guy seems nice. However, he seems to be more into texting me than calling. For instance, he text me Monday night writing..."Good evening. How was your day today?" I replied back with....."There's only one way to find out...Call me." He text back saying, "I would love to but caught up with work. I just wanted to touch base with you. Will call you tomorrow. Ok?" Then, Tuesday he calls me. Was very interested in how my day went. Claimed that the reason he didn't call after texting last night because his roomate was holding a jewlery sale party with fifty woman. It was very noisy. I found this reason to conflict with reason given in his text message. Am I being overly cautious?
Also, our conversations may last for only twenty minutes the most. Then, he claims my cell phone volume is so low he can't hear me and ask is there another number he can call (meaning home number). I told him, at this time, I use the computer to call from as second alternative. Everyone else hears me fine on my cell phone. Could he be making this up in order to get the house number? He gave me his house number but I don't want to give out mines yet.
Then, today he text me asking how am I feeling. Why don't he just call instead of texting me? This making me suspicous. He told me his roommate is a female and his best friend. After his divorce, his friend ask him would he take residence in her house. She knew him well and felt comfortably having him as a roommate. She needed someone to help share her mortage payment after her fiancee died. Tell me ladies am I justified in my suspicions?
Wed Nov 18 2009 - 03:11 pm
Some people especially guys don't like the phone. Some guys can text endlessly for weeks
I prefer email as a method of communication. Texting is ok. Getting random calls isn't always convenient.
I wouldn't read anything into it just yet. However if all he does is text and never asks you out, then tell him to poop or get off the pot
Wed Nov 18 2009 - 03:42 pm
Thanks Babe. Fortunately, he is eager to meet up with me.
Even asked what day would be good. Until I got this bad cold, we had to put the meeting on hold. It would be a bad first impression to meet with a runny nose and red eyes. LOL!
Wed Nov 18 2009 - 04:17 pm
You are on track then. Feel better and enjoy!
Wed Nov 18 2009 - 04:19 pm
Thanks Babe. What has been going on in your dating life? Anything new and exciting lately?
Wed Nov 18 2009 - 04:26 pm
Oh man. If I didn't live vicariously through all you Goddesses here, I wouldn't have a life at all.
Just kidding. I am really only starting to get out there. I have enormous amounts of attention on my financial life and creating my acting career. Dating is next on the list. But it is on my To Do list before my 50th BDay in March. Not necessarily to find The One, but to jump in the pool and at least kiss some more frogs.
I do get out to karaoke on Saturday. and to as many theatre and film functions as possible. My first goal is just to build a circle of friends I can do stuff with.
Wed Nov 18 2009 - 05:30 pm
Hi Babe,
I can relate with the kissing of frogs. LOL! That's great you're starting to work on the acting career and you are begining to get a social life. I would be too scared to karaoke because there wouldn't be anyone I know around. lol! I registered with the website called meetup.com. It's an interesting website. The funny thing is all these exes are calling me out of the blue. There must be something in the water.
Thu Nov 19 2009 - 04:42 pm
Hi Babe,
He called me last night but didn't hear the phone. So, I called him back and he said "I'm listening on a conference call. Can I call you back? If not tonight, I will text you tomorrow." I haven't received a text from him and find it difficult dealing with a person of this nature. I'm wondering is the reason his marriage failed because he may be a workaholic. What are your views?
Thu Nov 19 2009 - 05:03 pm
Marriages can fail for hundreds of reasons. The fact he called is a good sign rather than a random text. If he said he will text, hang in there. I know this is where it gets frustrating. I hate when people say they will call (or text) back and then don't. I hate when people don't return calls. i always do. Well usually, unless I am screening for a reason.
Anyway, this is all part of the dance.
Sun Nov 22 2009 - 12:14 am
Hey Babe,
Update, He called last night. Again the conversation was short and to the point. I told him about studying for my final exam today and will be free to breath again by Sunday. Guess what....he told me well, I wanted to touch base with you. See how you were feeling. Then he says...I have to work Saturday and attend a family function. He didn't go into what type of family function. LOL! So, he won't be able to call me today but Sunday will give me a ring and wants to set up a date for next week sometime. Don't you think it's suspicious that he can't call me at all on Saturday. Sure people have to work and go to family function but one can step aside to call someone and talk for a good half an hour rather than ten to fifteen minutes. Don't you think?
For instance, this other prospective date is a busy man. He purchased a house and doing construction on it as well as work a full-time job. But guess what? He makes a point of calling me in his busy day. We spoke tonight and he continued talking to me on his way to home depot and as he drove back home. More so, he continued the conversation on ward delaying his work on the house. See this shows me a man who is truly interested and single. I don't know about that other guy. Tell me your views?
Sun Nov 22 2009 - 08:22 am
This is one of the hazards of our modern communications availability...we have come to expect that someone can (indeed SHOULD) drop whatever they are doing to call US! What nonsense! If he's at a family function THAT's where he should be...enjoying his family, not calling someone. I actually turn my phone off when I'm out with friends and family because I find it soooooooo rude when others excuse themselves to make or take a call. What that tells me is that I'm LESS important, that my time is LESS valuable than whomever is in that little rectangular box.
I say good for him that he is actually present with his family when he's with them. So NO I don't think he should have stepped aside for a "good half an hour" to talk to you if he was at a family function! That actually raises his appeal as it speaks to his character and his ability to be IN the moment, not always looking for something "better."
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