found an awesome guy a month after my ex dumped me.

okay here we go. i met my ex when i was 18. i fell head over heels for him. he tried to get into my pants when we went back to his house after our second date. i froze, then told him i was a virgin, yet he kepped going untill i verbally said no. two weeks later he got it (because i was inexperienced and believed, ever since i was young, that guys get blue balls if they get aroused, but don't orgasm. and i also believed it was impolite to turn down a guy if he was hard, because he would get blue balls (that's due to having a bunch of guy friends LOL).) anyway, except for knowing that he didn't want a girlfriend, he was a very good guy, just not at that stage of his life yet. after 3 months, he called me his gf for the first time and then commented 'and i didn't even want to have a girlfriend'

i was quite naive and totally in love. instead of thinking 'gee, if he doesn't really want a gf, then he probably doesn't want a gf to live with, let alone want a wife'. but i was dreaming 'awwwww, he doesn't want a gf, yet i'm his gf, so he must REALY like me'.

we had about another 3 good, fun months, were he was in love too. he called, spend time with me, said i love you lots, held me. after we were together 6 months it started to lessen. i went to europe for 5 weeks and he mentioned it was nice because he didn't have to feel guilty about not visiting me enough. (although he should come and visit me, because there is nowhere else on earth he'd rather be, he shouldn't visit me because he has to and it was me that usually visited him anyway). one time i also mentioned that i had always thought i would wait at least 3 months, before getting sexually active, and he responded 'i would have been gone' but it sorta went in the one ear, out the other.

long story short, after a year and a half i started dreaming about a house together and he ran away. i was having a bit of second thoughts anyway, because even though i dreamed about forever, at the same time i completely stopped saying 'i love you', i think my sub conscious maybe pushed him away on purpose? because i definetly did make more weird mistakes towards the end. he was a nice guy and once he's older i believe he'll make a good boyfriend for someone some day. he was nice and i was able to trust him, but he didn't put any effort into the relationship and after a few dates, he never really took me on dates again, we just sat behind the tv at his house most of the time and he did lots of fun stuff by himself or with his buddies. he just didn't want a relationship and said he sorta got roped into it. once he's older and actually wants a relationship, he will probably make a better boyfriend,

anyway, cried every day for two weeks. got some 'get back with your ex' e-books. (they just prey on desperate, heart broken girls and boys lol, otherwise i would never have bought it lol) anyway, the advice was pretty good. no contact and date other ppl. the ex will wonder what happened because they expect the girl to phone at least once i guess. you want what you can't have, so when they find out about you dating other guys, they want you back because they are so used to you all to themselves. anyway, might have gotten him back, but i found an even better guy during the process of getting my ex back. (first i dated a millionair hahaha, but totally not my type, i'm horsecrazy country girl that doesn't wear make-up and isn't afraid of mud, only one date, still lots of fun) when my current bf properly asked me to be his gf after only 10 days, my ex was history and i brushed him off once he finally did phone.

my current bf is much more handsome (he taller and has muscles, my ex was a tiny bit shorter then me and had quite thin arms and legs, but both guys are good looking face wise), all my friends are jealous lol. he also has very good manners, opens up every door, always unlocks my car door first and opens it. if i hop in fast enough, he closes the door for me too. he holds open my jacket for me and always pays for everything. even if i see a nice CD and bring it to the cashier, he pays. (although i usually stop him lol). when we had sex after 2 months, he was worried it was too fast (even though i started it lol) and he said that maybe we should wait another 6 months before having sex again.
when we were together 3 months, he was about to move to my town (his work laid off a bunch of ppl and cut his work hours in half, so he was going to live here for 4 days and then live with his sister for 3 days in his home town two hours away), but i stopped him (i wasn't completely over my ex yet and had told lucas to slow down) he was upset for about a week.

he's still a great guy, hasn't changed a bit except for getting more cuddly and more open. we've been together 8 months now and he's still every bit as awesome. he's very carefull with me. he has trouble saying 'i love you' but he one time whispered he'll take good care of me and would take a bullet for me. when i went to pick up a horse trailer, he came with me to drive behind me. i told him i loved him first and he always echoes it back. a few times he's said it first. he hasn't made another attempt to move here, because he's bought a new car lol. his job isn't doing so good, he still works 3 days/ week and his moving to my town as soon as he's laid off permanently. (he's not quiting because he wants the money he gets when he's laid off, so it's just a waiting game). he drives 2 hours to my place every weekend and he's amazing. he even helps my mom with the house chores. (rule in the house, if you stand in the kitchen while moms cooking, you get put to work. i stay faaar away. i was still in town at my job and he came to my place early (he and my dad went gold panning), stayed in the kitchen too long and was put to work hahahaha)

so that was my sucess story. i learned lots from DWD. i don't chase him, i had my heart stepped on, so i was much more carefull, but its DWD that has taught me how to deal with little bumps in the road. he says i'm the nicest girl he's ever met. he also likes me because i don't nag hahaha. and i'm the first girl he's said 'i love you' to. (eventhough he's had 2 three year relationships!)